有趣的英语演讲：过分友好，是交不到真朋友的！.docxVIP

有趣的英语演讲：过分友好，是交不到真朋友的！ 在日常交往中，可能我们多多少少都有经历过对别人过分友好的时期，特别是当自己想要交新朋友时，但其实这种过分讨好，不仅会败“路人缘”，还会搞得自己累觉不爱哦！ There is a particularly poignant way to be a social disaster: through over-friendliness, a pattern of behaviour driven by the very best of motives which ends up feeling as irritating as outright rudeness. 有一种特别的方法可以把一个人变成社交悲剧，那就是过分友好，这种行为源自于最善良的动机，却最终让人感觉粗暴无礼令人恼火。 ? We meet the over-friendly at the office, laughing at the jokes of the senior management; behind the desk at the hotel, wishing Sir or Madam a highly enjoyable stay and across the table on a first date, lavishly endorsing their would-be partners every opinion about recent books and films. 我们会在工作中遇到过分友好的人，他们应和着上司说话，在酒店也能遇到，他们站在服务后台后面祝愿着每一个客人能住的开心，在饭店也能看到，有些人第一次约会就无条件的奉承潜在对象的看法。 The over-friendly are guilty of three large errors: 过分友好的人犯了三个大的错误： ? Firstly, they believe they must agree on everything. If the other says the world is going to the dogs, they immediately nod in consent. If a second later, there is a prediction of a utopian technological future, they will agree just as much. 首先他们认为他们必须同意每件事，如果别人说这个世界糟透了，他们会立马点头同意。如果一秒钟后有一个预言预测未来是乌托邦，他们也会欣然表示赞同。 ? When we say something clever, they are thrilled. When we say something equally daft, they like it no less. Their ritual approval may seem attentive. In truth, it’s a version of not listening at all. 当我们说一些有趣的话，当我们说一些愚蠢的事，他们同样也喜欢礼节性的赞同，看起来非常贴心，事实上他们完全没有听你在说什么。 ? Secondly, their praise is ill-targeted. Plenty of nice things are being said, but they are not the ones we happen to value. They claim to love our umbrella, our credit card is from their favourite bank, our chairs are deeply beautiful, 其次，他们的赞美没有意义，有很多话听起来在夸你，但却都不是你在意的方面。他们会说你的伞真漂亮，你的信用卡是从我最喜欢的银行办的，你的椅子真好看， ? we apparently have a nice way of holding our fork… but none of this counts for us if it isn’t connected up with our own sense of meaning and achievement. Everyone loves being praised, but to be praised inaccurately is its own kind of insult. 你刀叉使得真好，但这一切对我们都不重要，因为它与我们自己的意义和成就感没有联系，每个人都喜欢被称赞，但被错