2013年中考英语阅读C、D篇.pdfVIP

2013年中考英语阅读C篇 Assertiveness is the ability to confidently express your opinions, feelings, attitudes, and rights, in a way that doesnt infringe (侵犯) the rights of others. Many of us are taught that it is not nice to consider our own needs above those of others. If someone says or does something that we dont like, we should just be quiet and try to stay away from that person in the future. Why is assertiveness important? If you dont know how to be assertive, you might experience: •Depression - Anger, a sense of being helpless, hopeless, or of having no control over your life. •Resentment - Anger at others for taking advantage of you. •Frustration - Why did I allow that to happen? Most people find it easier to be assertive in some situations than in others. This makes perfect sense. Its a lot easier to hold your ground with a stranger than with someone you love. But the more important the relationship is to you, the more important it is to be assertive. Assertive behavior leads to increased respect from others! But before you decide to act assertively, you have to decide if you can live with the results. Although assertive behavior usually will result in a positive response (积极的回应)，some people might react differently. How to be effectively (有效地) assertive: • Use I statements. Keep the focus on the problem youre having. Id like to be able to tell my stories without interruption. instead of Youre always interrupting my stories! • Use facts, not opinions. Did you know that shirt has a hole? instead of Youre not going out looking like THAT, are you? • Express ownership of your thoughts, feelings, and opinions. I get angry when he breaks his promises. instead of He makes me angry. • Make clear and direct requirements. Dont invite the person to say no. Will you please? instead o