父母与子女(Parents and Kids)_0.docVIP

父母与子女(Parents and Kids) 父母与子女(parents and ids) an parents h ele the idea f turning ff tv and spending re tie ith the fail are still rded that ithut tv the uld nstantl be n all as entertainers fr their hildren the reeber thining up all srts f things t d hen the ere ids but their n ids see different,less resureful, sehathen there’s nthing t d,these parents bserve regretfull, their ids see unable t e up ith anthing t d besides turning n tv ne father, fr exaple, sas,hen i as a id, e ere alas thining up things t d e ertainl never plain in an anning a t ur parents: ‘1 have nthing t d! ‘ he pares this ith his n hildren tda:the’re sipl laz if sene desn’t entertain the, the’ ii hap- pil sit there athing tv all da there is ne rd fr this father’s disappintent: unfair he deplres his hildren’ s la f inventiveness, as if the abilit t pla ere sething innate that his hildren are issing in fat, hile the tenden t pla is built int the huan speies, the atual abilit--t iagine, t invent, t elabrate--and the abilit t gain fulfillent fr it are sills that have t be learned and develped suh disappintent, hever, is nt nl unust, it is als destrutive sensing their parents’ disappintent, hildren e t believe that the are, indeed, laing sething, and that this aes the less rth f adiratin and respet giving hildren the pprtunit t develp ne re-sures, t enlarge their hrizns and disver the pleasures f ding things n their n is, n the ther hand, a a t help hildren develp a nfident feeling abut theselves as apable and interesting peple父母与子女 许多赞同关掉电视、愿意与家人共度更多时光的父母亲仍旧忧心忡忡；没有了电视，他们得随时做好准备逗自己的孩子开心。他们记得自己小时候想出各种各样的招儿来玩。可是他们自己的孩子似乎变了，不知怎的，缺乏想象力。这些家长不无遗憾地注意到，他们的孩子在无所事事的时候，除了打开电视似乎想不出还有别的什么事可做。 试单一例，一位父亲说：我小时候，我们总是想出各种各样的招儿来玩。我们绝不会惹父母生气，向他们抱怨：我没事可干!他将这一点跟今天他自己的孩子作比较：他们就是懒，如果没有人逗他们玩，他们就心满意足地坐在那里一天到晚看电视。 对于这位父亲的失望，一言以蔽之：不公平。他对孩子们缺乏想象力痛心疾首，似乎游戏能力是天生的，而他的孩子先天缺乏这种能力。事实上，尽管游戏的能力是人类固有的，但实实在在的游戏能力想象、创新、精心策划以及从中获得成就感的能力，都是一些需要后天学习和培养的技能。 这位父亲的失望不仅不公平，而且有害。 当孩子们感受到父母的失望，他们就会逐渐相信他们确实缺少一点什么，因而不配受人赞赏和尊敬。反之，假如给孩子们机会