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Why Marriages Fail Anne Roiphe is an American feminist author known for such novels as Up the Sandbox and Lovingkindness. Her work is no- teworthy for its examination of the conflict between the desire for career and self-determination 婚姻何以失败安妮·罗艾菲 安妮·罗艾菲是一位美国女权主义者作家以诸《如主妇狂想曲》和《慈爱》 这样的小说而闻名，她的工作里值得注意的是她事业的欲望与自决之间的冲突 These days so many marriages end in divorce that our most sacred vows no longer ring with truth. “Happily ever after” and “Till death do us part” are expressions that seem on the way to becoming obsolete. Why has it become so hard for couples to stay together? What goes wrong? What has happened to us that close to one-half of all marriages are destined for the divorce courts? How could we have created a society in which 42 percent of out children will grow up in single-parent homes?If statistics could only measure loneliness, regret, pain, lose of self-confidence, and fear of the future, the numbers would be beyond quantifying. 如今，以离婚告终的婚姻如此之多，我们最神圣的誓约听上去都不再真实了。 “婚后永远幸福”和“直到死神将我们分开”这类话语似乎快过时了。夫妻长相守何以变得如此困难？哪儿出了问题？我们到底怎么了，竟然有差不多半数的婚姻注定要为离婚走进法庭？有 42%的儿童将在单亲家庭中长大，我们怎么把社会弄成这样了呢？如果统计要是能测量孤独、遗憾、痛苦、失去自信、恐惧未来的话， 那么这个数字将无法计量。 Even though each broken marriage is unique, we can still find the common perils, the common causes for marital despair. Each marriage has crisis points and each marriage tests endurance, the capacity for both intimacy and change. Outside pressures such as job loss, illness, infertility, trouble with a child, care of aging parents and all the other plagues of life hit marriage the way hurricanes blast our shores. Some marriages survive these storms and others don’t. Marriages fail, however, not simply because of the outside weather but because the inner climate becomes too hot or too cold, too turbulent or too stupefying. 虽然破裂的婚姻各有其独特的情况，但我们还是能找到致使婚姻无法维持下去的共同因素、共同原因。凡婚姻都有其危机时刻，都要经受对持久力的考验， 经受对既能亲密相处又善应对变化这种能力的考验。外部压力，如失业、疾病、不育、抚育孩子、赡养年迈的父母，以及生活中其他种种烦恼，都会如飓风横扫海岸那样对婚姻带来打击。有些婚姻经受住了这些风暴，有些则不然。但婚姻失败并不是简单地由外部天气造成的，而是由于内部气候变得过热或过冷，变得过于狂暴或过