Incorporatingspiritualintimacy-freeselfhelp.org.doc

Tips for intimacy with your partner How I wrote this document 16 Books or card decks worth buying 16 Building trust for physical intimacy 17 Commitment celebrations 21 Asian philosophies on intimacy 23 Very shy people and physical intimacy 25 Sexual health 25 Your first time with that partner 38 Scheduling 39 Toys 40 Aids other than toys 48 Bedroom / weekend-getaway checklist 58 A three-day intimacy rekindling retreat 59 Relevant exercises 61 Incorporating spiritual intimacy 84 During lovemaking: Communicating 89 During: Deep breathing eye-gazing 93 During: Cultivating spreading energy 101 During: Arousal and orgasm 111 During: Physical touching 131 Afterwards 244  Table of Contents in depth How I wrote this document 16 The intended readers 16 Deciding what to omit 16 Books or card decks worth buying 16 Building trust for physical intimacy 17 Before your first time with someone 17 Milestones to pass first 17 Saying “No” gracefully 17 Your new mate’s sexual health 17 Establish touch boundaries 18 Questions to explore 18 Discussing past sexual experiences 18 After the first time and beyond 18 Saying “No” 19 Setting appropriate boundaries 19 Questions to consider on your own 19 Ways to enrich the discussion 20 Good questions to ask your mate 21 Commitment celebrations 21 Weddings 21 Greening your wedding 21 Simplifying it and saving money 22 Other possibilities 22 Anniversaries and vow-renewal parties 22 Asian philosophies on intimacy 23 The Kama Sutra 23 Tantra 23 Taboo breaking 24 An exercise in breaking patterns 24 The Taoist approach 24 Allow 21 years to know your mate 24 Very shy people and physical intimacy 25 Sexual health 25 Mutual cleanliness 25 Her health 25 Virgin birth alert 25 Good vaginal pH: yogurt or red wine 25 Sex when menstruating 26 Oral s