雅思阅读材料之不要触犯的四个感情错误.docxVIP

智课网IELTS备考资料 雅思阅读材料之不要触犯的四个感情错误 It’s been a few months and what was just a fling has turned into a full blown relationship. Now is usually the point where things start going to the dumps and your perfect relationship ends in a fiery cloud of smoke.  几个月过去了，曾经的美好早已支离破碎。到底是什么让这段完美的感情走到尽头，烟消云散？  This time it’s going to be different. This one is going to be really perfect and you’re not going to make the same mistakes as last time. Just make sure you’re not making any of the following common relationship mistakes or that fiery cloud is going to make its appearance once again.  这次要做点改变。下一段感情一定要完美，你不能再犯同样的错误。先看看下面一些常见的感情错误，确保不再犯，否则乌云还是会再次出现影响你们的感情。  1. Don’t Stand Up For Yourself  不为自己说话  This is an all too-common habit of both men and women. The same feeling of lack of self-worth is behind this habit for both genders, but it manifests itself differently.  这是男女之间太常见的问题。这一习惯的背后是两性之间自我价值的缺失感，只是表达方式有所不同。  Some men think that in order to remain in a woman’s good graces, you have to submit to everything she wants. If they start disagreeing with her, she’ll drop him like a hot potato. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Women want a strong gentleman, not a puppy. It seems as if men believe there are only two choices: (1) the pushover who puts up with everything, and (2) the hyper-masculine a-hole. They vacillate between these two, unable to see that there’s a perfect median. They end up resenting their partner instead of loving them.  有些男人觉得要想一直取悦女人就必须给她想要的一切。一旦他们在某点上不赞同女友，便会马上被甩。这可真是大错特错。女人们想要的是坚强的绅士，不是宠物。似乎男人们总觉得眼前只有两个选择：（1）忍受所有事情的好好先生；（2）大男子主义的霸权男。他们在两者之间跳跃，却忽视了其实有一个完美的中间状态。到最后他们就由爱生恨。  The same is true for women, except women will almost always express their resentment in the form of passive aggression. Don’t do this! There’s no need. A man doesn’t want a woman who can’t think for herself, or who pretends to agree with him and then punishes him with her passive aggressive tactics.