A_comparative_study__on_family_education_in_American_and_China概述.ppt

A comparative study on family education in American and China education in university When the child goes to college, the parents’ comparison is more intense. “Which university does your child attend?” If the child studies in Qinghua, Beijing University, or other famous universities, the parents will take a pride in their child; if the child has not been matriculated in a famous university, the parents will feel sad and ashamed of facing relatives. Above all, we can know Chinese parents put their faces in the first place. And in the western countries, these things never happen. An American friend, who is only graduated from a specialized middle school, works in a small store. In my opinion, he is almost below the life’s “the safety line”, and has little to be proud of. But his parents appreciate actually him much more. Why? Because he takes part in the piano performance in the community frequently, and obtains the reward many times. The main difference is that the college chosen by the Chinese children is usually famous one, and the Western children choose the college according to their own likes, instead of taking “famous or top college”as the decision factor.[ Family education in American 美国的家庭教育 二．参与家事决策 美国孩子在家里的确是小主人，不但参与家庭的各种活动，还参与家庭大事的决策。比如购买什么样的汽车、家电、电脑，怎样布置房间，怎样利用和美化庭院等，父母都倾听孩子的意见。许多孩子都跟父母一起干些力所能及的家务活儿，如收拾院子、种植花草树木、擦洗汽车、自行车、做室内外卫生、购买东西等。邻居家10岁的孩子，每周几次去洗衣店送取衣物，这是他固定的“岗位”。还有一家女孩子房间总是凌乱，妈妈就跟孩子订了个“协议”：每到周末各自彻底打扫自已的房间，晚饭前完成；平时每天临睡前要把各种物品整理好，养成随拿随放、注重环境整洁的好习惯。妈妈也就按“协议”不再唠叨不休。 三. 在和谐气氛中了解孩子 许多家庭都有吃饭时及饭后随便聊天的习惯，饭桌上的气氛和谐、幽默、民主，谁也不许打断谁的话，谁都能把心里话倒个一干二净。还有许多细心的妈妈总在孩子睡觉前去跟孩子谈谈“今天过得怎么样？什么事使你最开心？今天你向老师提了哪些问题？”父母跟孩子说话很客气、和蔼，极少见到疾言厉色的训斥、打骂，父母总是对孩子说“谢谢”“对不起”“请原谅”等等，用商量的口吻对话。 四. 多诱导、鼓励，不强制 四. 多诱导、鼓励，不强制 对于孩子的游玩和兴趣活动，家长从不强制孩子去做什么，而是尊重孩子自己的意愿，让孩子独立地支配自己的课余时间。选择学练什么乐器和其它兴趣技能，家长总是给予支持、鼓励和指导，或帮助请家庭辅导教师，或支持孩子去上个什么技能培训班。 美国家长大都对孩子的学习不施加压力。他们的观点是：喜欢学的孩子自然会努力学，为什么要强制他去做不愿意做的事情呢？强拗着去做，会伤害孩子的感情与个性。人的兴趣、爱好和才能本来就各不相同，孩子适合做什么就做什么，人生的路让孩子自己去走。成功的家庭教育，应是家长舍得拿出时间跟孩子以平等的态度进行对