The power of vulnerability 脆弱的力量.doc

So, Ill start with this: a couple years ago, an event planner called me because I was going to do a speaking event. And she called, and she said, Im really struggling with how to write about you on the little flyer. And I thought, Well, whats the struggle? And she said, Well, I saw you speak, and Im going to call you a researcher, I think, but Im afraid if I call you a researcher, no one will come, because theyll think youre boring and irrelevant. (Laughter) And I was like, Okay. And she said, But the thing I liked about your talk is youre a storyteller. So I think what Ill do is just call you a storyteller. And of course, the academic, insecure part of me was like, Youre going to call me a what? And she said, Im going to call you a storyteller. And I was like, Why not magic pixie? (Laughter) I was like, Let me think about this for a second. I tried to call deep on my courage. And I thought, you know, I am a storyteller. Im a qualitative researcher. I collect stories; thats what I do. And maybe stories are just data with a soul. And maybe Im just a storyteller. And so I said, You know what? Why dont you just say Im a researcher-storyteller. And she went, Ha ha. Theres no such thing. (Laughter) So Im a researcher-storyteller, and Im going to talk to you today -- were talking about expanding perception -- and so I want to talk to you and tell some stories about a piece of my research that fundamentally expanded my perception and really actually changed the way that I live and love and work and parent. 那我就这么开始吧：几年前，一个活动策划人打电话给我，因为我当时要做一个演讲。她在电话里说：“我真很苦恼该如何在宣传单上介绍你。”我心想，怎么会苦恼呢？她继续道：“你看，我听过你的演讲，我觉得我可以称你为研究者，可我担心的是，如果我这么称呼你，没人会来听，因为大家普遍认为研究员很无趣而且脱离现实。”（笑声）好。然后她说：“但是我喜欢你的演讲，就跟讲故事一样很吸引人。我想来想去，还是觉得称你为讲故事的人比较妥当。”而那个做学术的，感到不安的我脱口而出道：“你要叫我什么？”她说：“我要称你为讲故事的人。我心想：”为什么不干脆叫魔法小精灵？“（笑声）我说：”让我考虑一下。“我试着鼓起勇气。我对自己说，我是一个讲故事的人。我是一个从事定性研究的科研人员。我收集故事；这就是我的工作。或许故事就是有灵魂的数据。或许我就是一个讲故事的人。于是我说：”听着，要不你就称我为做研究兼讲故事的人。“她说：”哈哈，没这么个说法呀。“（笑声）所以我是个做研究兼讲故事的人，我今天想跟大家谈论的--我们要谈论的话题是关于拓展认知--我想给你们讲几个故事是关于我的一份研