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Unite oneA．I thought for a while I minght learn something from the Spanish-speaking people, the most conversationally adroit people on earth. Say to one of them, “This is the most beautiful house I’ve ever been in,” and he responds,“It is made immeasurably more beautiful by your lovely presence.” You are left standing there with immeasurably lovely egg on your face. There is no point in trying to play the game back at them—they’ll top you in the end, no matter what.One thing is clear: at the bottom of all graceful social intercourse lies poise. Eliza W. Farrar, who wrote one of America’s earliest books on etiquette, illustrated the importance of poise when she told of an elegant New England dinner party at which the host was carving a goose. The bird got away from him, shot out of the dish and landed in the lap of a lady of quality. Given the same circumstances I would have quietly asked for a coil of rope. This host, however, had poise. He said, with superb calmness and gravity,“Madam, I will thank you for that goose.” If we could all comport ourselves with that kind of dignity, and quit jittering, our social life would be much more enjoyable.We may acquire a bit more poise if we keep one thing in mind: whenever a person pays you a compliment, the chances are he’s just making conversation. The only sensible response consists of eight little letters arranged neatly into two little words: Thank you.我想了片刻，觉得世界上讲西班牙语的人最善于辞令，也许可以从他们身上学到点什么。你对他们中的一个人赞叹说，“我从来没见过这么漂亮的房子，”他马上答道，“您大驾光临，更使蓬荜生辉。”让你站在那儿，一脸尴尬。要想回敬他们是没有用的——不管说什么，最后他们总会占上风。 有一点很清楚： 在所有得体的社交场合，最根本的就是保持镇定。伊利莎·法勒写过一本美国最早的有关礼仪方面的书。她在书中讲述了一个故事，阐明保持镇定的重要性。那是在新英格兰举行的一次高雅的宴会上，主人切鹅时，鹅不慎脱手，滑出了盘子，落在一位贵妇人的衣裙上。要是我遇到这种情况，我会感到极为窘迫，恨不得悄悄地找根绳子去上吊。可是，这位主人却泰然自若。他极为平静而庄重地说，“夫人，您把那鹅给我，我将感激不尽。”要是我们的行为举止都能保持这种风度，摆脱局促不安，那我们的社交生活就会有趣得多。如果我们牢记下面这一点，我们就会显得更加镇定自如： 每当有人恭维你时，他可能只是想和你说说话。唯一明智的回答就是由八个小小的字母构成两个简洁的小词： Thank you ！B.要善于恭维他人，重要的一部就是要懂得为什么恭维有助于你建立更好的人际关系。恭维之所以奏效，最根本的原因是恭维符合了人类行为的一个基本原则：人们渴望得到赏识。尽管文化背景各不相同，但绝大多数人都有类似的想法。在亚洲文化中，人们对群体赏识的