howtochooseyourpeople.doc

How To Choose Your People by Ruth Minshull 1972 Introduction Chapter 1 The Common Denominator 4Chapter 2 The Emotional Tone Scale 7Chapter 3 Apathy (0.05) 11Chapter 4 Making Amends (0.375) 16Chapter 5 Grief (0.5) 18Chapter 6 Propitiation (0.8) 23Chapter 7 Sympathy (0.9) 27Chapter 8 Fear (1.0) 34Chapter 9 Covert Hostility (1.1) 38Chapter 10 No Sympathy (1.2) 45Chapter 11 Anger (1.5) 50Chapter 12 Pain (1.8) 56Chapter 13 Antagonism (2.0) 57Chapter 14 Boredom (2.5) 60Chapter 15 Conservatism (3.0) 63Chapter 16 Interest and Enthusiasm () 66Chapter 17 Some Tips on Spotting Tones 72Chapter 18 Cliches to Live by—Or Should We? 80Chapter 19 The Battle of the Sexes 85Chapter 20 Meanwhile, Down at the Office 91Chapter 21 Groups 99Chapter 22 The Tone Scale and the Arts 105Chapter 23 How to Handle People by Tone Matching 112Chapter 24 Raising Tone 120Chapter 25 You and Me 125A BRIEF DESCRIPTION OF EMOTIONAL TONES 133 INTRODUCTION Out in the Jungle I don’t know what occupied your mind when you were in the early teens; but I was usually engrossed in trying to top insults with my older brothers. When I bothered to think about it at all, I expected that somewhere in the process of growing up I’d learn how to choose people—how to tell the good guys from the bad ones. In the movies it was easy (those white hats); but I wasn’t acquainted with any cowboys. Trustingly, however, I assumed that if the movie people recognized the difference, surely my parents and teachers knew all about people and someday would share the secrets with me. But they didn’t. I grew up, more or less, and wandered out into the jungle without knowing the difference between a tiger and teddy bear. Probably, I supposed, there aren’t any tigers in real life anyway. I fell in love. Ecstatically. Deliriously. This was more exciting than devouring cotton candy or swinging on top of th