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William Porter 87; Catherine Porter 80; John Porter 53; Susan 48; Mary Porter----; Mr. Lee ----; James Porter 24; Joan Lee 17. The Porter Family Mr. William Porter is very old. Hes 87. And Mrs. Catherine Porter is 80. Mr. Porter is from Wales. John Porter and Mary are brother and sister. John Porter is 53 and hes a lawyer. His wife Susan is 48, and shes an architect. James Porter and Joan Lee are cousins. James Porter is 24 and Joan Lee is 17. Tips for happy marriage 1 Go on dates with each other. Renew romantic feelings by spending special time together. 2 Be as specific as you can when you complain, make a request, or offer praise. 3 When stressed by fatigue or your own insecurities, imagine you and your partner in a foxhole, surrounded by danger. Instead of striking out at your partner, find a way to protect the partnership! 4 When you feel distant, talk about it with your partner. 5 Be assured that partners in all marriages sometimes get tired, irritable, or distracted. Work together to understand each other. 6 Respect each other. Leave if danger exists. Find professional help if physical, sexual, emotional, or verbal abuse occurs. 7 Fight to understand, not to win. Having been married for more than 40 years, I can attest to the truth of the following statement: To excel in the art of domestic argument, one must master the art of losing. Modern psychologists are taken with the win-win solution. But in marriage, success resides more in lose-lose solutions. Out of these, both parties can win. For in the love configuration, losing gives a gift that always returns. The issues that people argue over most in marriage, such as how to spend money, often arent the real ones. The key issue is: Who is going to be in control? When I was younger, my need to control arose out of fear, a lack of trust, insecurity. The day I finally realized I didnt need to control my wife -- that, indeed, I ought not to control her, that I couldnt control her, and that if I tried to, I woul