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情商：14个人际交往小技巧助你变身万人迷We all care about what others think of us and want to be liked.我们都在乎别人怎么看待我们，都渴望被别人喜欢。The basics of getting people to like you are obvious — be nice, be considerate, be a decent human being. However, there are also many smaller, more discreet things you can do that can have a huge effect on how others perceive you.让别人喜欢上你的基本方法很明显——要和蔼、考虑周到、正派。然而你还能做一些更细小、更简单的事，这会对其他人对你的印象造成巨大影响。1. Use a Persons Name.叫对方的名字。Lets face it — were all huge narcissists and we all love the sound of our own name. Learn names and make use of them. Always use an individuals name in a conversation. This tried-and-true technique is sure to increase your fan base.我们要面对现实——我们都很自恋，喜欢听别人叫自己的名字，问问别人的名字并且用名字称呼他们，和别人聊天时要经常提到对方的名字。这个行之有效的技巧一定会为你赢得众多粉丝。2. Smile — With Feeling!微笑——要发自内心！When someone offers a huge grin brimming with authenticity, happiness rubs off on its receivers. There have been many studies showing how mood, whether positive or negative, spreads between individuals. If your positive attitude brightens someone elses day, that person will love you for it.当有人真心实意地微笑时，幸福会感染对方。曾有很多研究表明无论是积极还是消极的情绪都会在人与人之间传递。如果你的积极态度让别人一天都感到幸福，他也会因此爱上你。3. Listen (Not Just With Your Ears).倾听（不只是用耳朵）。Its probably a no-brainer that people will like you more if you listen to them. This starts with ignoring your Twitter feed while out to dinner with friends, but goes a lot further than that. You can show youre listening to someone through body language (positioning your body to face someone and mirroring his or her stance), eye contact (giving plenty of it), and verbal confirmation (well talk more about this next).如果你聆听别人的倾诉，他们就会更喜欢你，这件事可能很好理解。你可以从跟朋友出去吃饭时不看推特做起，但你需要做的还有很多。你可以用肢体语言（身体要面向对方模仿对方的姿势）、眼神交流（这个要有很多）和言语上的确认（我们接下来要多聊聊这件事）来表明你在听对方说话。4. Use Verbal Confirmation.言语确认。Most psychology books refer to this technique as active listening. Active listening revolves around demonstrating your listening skills by repeating segments of what an individual has said to you.大多数心理学书籍把这个称为“积极倾听”。积极倾听围绕的是