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十五条永不过时的生活智慧 The great benefit of livingwith, working for, or being related to people who have experienced more of lifethan you have is picking their brain for advice. 和比你有生活经验的人一起生活、或为之工作、或和他们有联系的最大的益处莫过于可以从他们那里得到建议。 The most effective peoplelearn from their own mistakes, and make a significant effort tolearn from other peoples errors as well. 效率高的人会从自己的错误中学习，并努力从别人的错误中学习。 A Quora thread asked usersfor the best advice theyve ever gotten.Here are a few of the greatestexcerpts, lightly edited for clarity: Quora上有一个帖子，问用户得到的最好的建议是什么。其中最好的几条摘录如下，为了清楚起见稍微做了些编辑： 1. Never say but. 不要说“但是” 。 A very smart woman Iworked with once told me that if I eliminated the wordbut from my professional vocabulary, Id findgreater acceptance for my ideas, and greater cooperation from my teammembers... The word but negates everything that precedes it, and you cast anegative spin on anything you say when you use it... But is exclusive andisolating; and is inclusive and welcoming. “和我一起工作的一位非常聪明的女士曾经告诉我，如果我把’但是’这个词从我的工作用语中去掉，那我的想法被别人接受的概率会更高，我的团队成员间的合作程度也会更好……‘但是’这个词把它之前的内容都否定了，当你用它的时候，你说的话都蒙上了消极的色彩……‘但是’是排外的和孤立的；‘并且’是包容的、受欢迎的。” 2. You never get anything unless you ask. 除非你去争取，否则你什么也得不到。 It was a professor inmy university, but I believe its origin is from somebody famous: If you dontask, the answer is always no. “这句话是从我大学的一个教授那儿听到的，但我觉得这句话是源自一句名言：如果你不去问，那么答案永远是 ‘不’。” 3. Think before you complain. 抱怨之前先思考。 Dont complain. I thinkit was phrased as something like, Do youever listen to someone complaining and think, This is a greatconversation!?Being negative doesnthelpothers, and it doesnt help you. “不要抱怨。换句话说，“你有没有听别人抱怨，然后想，恩，这次的谈话可真棒！？’消极并不会帮助他人，也不会对你有帮助。” 4. Time is the one thing you never get back. 时间这个东西，你永远不会重新得到。 A mentor I had someyears ago told me that time is the one thing that you can never get back. Ifyou look at it as an asset,you can donate it, spend it, or waste it.Whateveryou do with it,it is gone once it passes. “几年之前我的导师告诉我，时间这个东西，你永远也不会重新得到。如果你把它看成是资产，你可以捐出它、花掉它或浪费掉。无论你怎么处理它，只