家庭和亲密关系.ppt

COM 3013 Tami Davis Barriers to Intimacy Jealousy Although sometimes jealousy is seen as a sign of affection, when it becomes violent or obsessive, it creates a barrier to intimacy. Jealousy is an aversive emotional experience characterized by feelings of anger, sadness, and fear induced by the threat or actual loss of a relationship with another person to a real or imagined rival (DeSteno Salovey, 1994, p. 220). COM 3013 Tami Davis Jealousy cognitive jealousy is negatively related to relational satisfaction; constantly mulling over jealous concerns heightens tension. Jealousy tends to erode relational connections. COM 3013 Tami Davis Jealousy Frequently, family jealousy occurs when members fear they may lose something they value, such as the intensity of a particular relationship. COM 3013 Tami Davis Deception Given that trust appears as a hallmark of intimacy, deceiving another violates the understanding. Most people expect family and loved ones to be truthful as a sign of connection or relational commitment. COM 3013 Tami Davis Deception Deception involves intentionally managing verbal and/or nonverbal messages so that another will believe or understand something in a way that the deceiver knows is false (Buller Burgoon, 1994). COM 3013 Tami Davis Activity Get in a small group Take a position on the statement: If you have to work at a relationship, there’s something wrong with it. Defend your position COM 3013 Tami Davis Confirmation Confirming messages communicate recognition and acceptance of another human being— a fundamental precondition to intimacy. COM 3013 Tami Davis confirming messages recognizes the other persons existence, acknowledges the others communication by responding relevantly to it, reflects and accepts the others self-experience, and suggests a willingness to become involved with the other. COM 3013 Tami Davis Confirmation Confirming communication is characterized by recognition, dialogue, and acceptance, which indi