TED演讲-如何进行有建设性的对话JuliaDhar(中英文参考学习)259.docxVIP

第 PAGE 1 页 共 5 页 【演讲者及介绍】Julia Dhar 波士顿咨询公司的Julia Dhar是思想、事实和富有成效的分歧的拥护者。 【演讲主题】如何进行有建设性的对话 How to have constructive conversations Three planes, 25 hours, 10,000 miles. My dad gets off a flight from Australia with one thing in mind and its not a snack or a shower or a nap. Its November 2016 and Dad is here to talk to Americans about the election. Now, Dads a news fiend, but for him, this is not just red or blue, swing states or party platforms. He has some really specific intentions. He wants to listen, be heard and understand. And over two weeks, he has hundreds of conversations with Americans from New Hampshire to Miami. Some of them are tough conversations, complete differences of opinions, wildly different worldviews, radically opposite life experiences. But in all of those interactions, Dad walks away with a big smile on his face and so does the other person. You can see one of them here. And in those interactions, hes having a version of what it seems like we have less of, but want more of -- a constructive conversation. We have more ways than ever to connect. And yet, politically, ideologically, it feels like we are further and further apart. We tell pollsters that we want politicians who are open-minded. And yet when they change their point of view, we say that they lacked conviction. For us, when were confronted with information that challenges an existing worldview, our tendency is not to open up, its to double down. We even have a term for it in social psychology. Its called belief perseverance. And boy, do some peoples beliefs seem to persevere. Im no stranger to tough conversations. I got my start in what I now call productive disagreement in high school debate. I even went on to win the World Schools Debate Championship three times. Ive been in a lot of arguments, is what Im saying, but it took watching my dad on the streets of the US to understand that we need to figure out how we go into conversations. Not looking for the victory, but the progre