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如何致歉才是正确的做法？

Chancesare,youvehadtoapologizeplentyoftimesinyourlife.Andtheresagoodchanceyouvealsoutteredthephrase,Inevermeanttohurtyou.

生活中你可能要致歉许多次，而且很有可能说过这句话：“我从没想过要损害你”。

Stopdoingthat,saysauthorCarolineMyss.

作者卡罗兰·梅斯说：“别再说那句话了。”

InatalkMyss―aspiritualseeker,researcher―tookonthetopicofforgivenessandhealing,andexplainedinnouncertaintermswhyInevermeanttohurtyouisneverasufficientapology,nomatterwhoitcomesfrom.

梅斯是一位精神导师和探讨员，她在一次访谈中讲了宽恕和疗伤的话题，并且特别明确地说明了为什么“我从没想过要损害你”这句话恒久不适合用来致歉，无论是从谁的嘴里说出来。

Picturethatpersoncominguptoyouandsaying,Wow,bummer.ImsorryIdidthis,but,youknow,Inevermeanttohurtyou.And,hey,canwejustcallitaday?Mysssays.

梅斯说：“想象一下，那个人朝你走过来跟你说‘哦，哥们，很愧疚我那样做，但你知道的，我从没想过要损害你。就这样吧好吗?’”

Astemptingasitcanbetomoveonandburythehatchet,thattypeofapologywon’tsitwellwiththepersononthereceivingend.Thatwholelittlething―Inevermeanttohurtyou―thatsthethingyoucantforgive,shesays.Itgoesrighttoyoursoul,thattoxic,sickfeeling.

虽然让关系能发展下去并停战和解是很吸引人的，但那种致歉真的不适合说给对方，她说：“那句‘我从没想过要损害你’所对应的整件小事，其实就是你无法宽恕的那个行为，是那种直入你心扉的难过的感觉。”

Instead,Mysssaysitsimportanttoapproachtheconversationdifferently.Ultimately,itsaboutofferingmorethananapology.Itsaboutsharingasoul-to-soulconfession.Letsredothescene,Mysssays.[Theperson]comesuptoyouandsays...Ineedtotellyousomething.IconsciouslyknewwhatIwasdoing.Iconsciouslyknewit,andIhavetocallitsomethingelse:Isinnedagainstyou.Itwasasin.IheardmyconsciencetellmenottodothisandIdidntlisten.Itdidntmattertome.AndIknowthatmyactionsredirectedthecourseofyourlife.Itwasconscious.Itwasasin,becauseitwasconscious.Andhowmuchithurtyoudidnotstopme.Thisisnotaboo-boo.Thisisnotanapology.Iamconfessingmysoultoyou,andImaskingnowforyourforgiveness.

梅斯