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Whenyou’recaughtbetween‘yes’and‘no,’here’swhy‘maybe’isn’tthewaytogo

当你在“去”与“不去”之间犹豫时，“再说吧”不是好答案??

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Gettingaconcertticketisexciting—untilyourfriendanswersyourinvitationwithasingleword:“Maybe.”Suddenlyyourjoyturnsintoanxiety.Youcancelotherplans,refreshyourphone,andwait.Bythetimethefriendfinallysays“No,”theonlythingleftisdisappointment.

以“maybe”回复邀请引发焦虑与失望，引出话题。

Asaconsumerpsychologist,Ihavespenttenyearsstudyinghowpeoplemakesocialchoices.Ournewresearchshowsthat“maybe”isnotneutral;itquietlydamagesrelationships.Infiveexperimentswith1,800adults,weaskedparticipantstoimagineeithersendingorreceivinganinvitation.Againandagain,twofactsappeared.

作者以研究者身份亮出中心论点：“maybe”暗中伤害人际关系。

First,inviteesoverestimatehowmuchhostswelcomeatentativeanswer.Inonestudy,62%ofgueststhoughtthehostwouldratherhear“maybe”than“no,”yetonly18%ofhostsagreed.Second,hostsfeelmoredisrespectedbya“maybe”thanbyaclearrefusal.Thedelaysignals,“Youreventismybackupplan,”whichmostpeoplefindinsulting.

揭示认知落差——客人高估“maybe”被欢迎度，主人却觉受辱。

Whydosmartadultskeepusingthisriskyword?Thereasonis“motivatedreasoning”—abiasedwayofthinkingthatprotectsourownwishes.A“maybe”keepstheinvitee’soptionsopenandpostponesthepainofmissingout.Saying“no”feelsfinal,sothebrainkindlyrewritesthestory:“Thehostprobablyprefersasoftansweranyway.”

解释人们仍用“maybe”的心理机制：动机性推理维护自身选择权。

Yettheillusioncanbebroken.Whenweaskedinviteestospendthirtysecondstakingthehost’sperspective,theuseof“maybe”droppedby34%.Inanotherexperiment,wedescribedtheeventas“acharitymeetingthatstartsat7a.m.”Becausenoonefearedmissingadawnlecture,motivatedreasoningdisappeared;83%refusedimmediately.

实验证明换位思考可减少34%“maybe”；当事件无吸引力时，动机性推理消失。

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