让自己成为一个善于倾听的人.docxVIP

让自己成为一个善于倾听的人时间:2013-10-22 14:01:55?来源:可可英语编辑:shaun ???VIP免费外教试听课?|??可可官方微信:ikekenet?字号：大?|?中?|?小?[网页划词已开启]??评论??打印?请登录英中对照中英对照英文在前中文在前只看英文只看中文Question:?Are?You?a?Good?Listener?提问：你是个善于倾听的人吗？Answer?A:?Yes答案一：是Answer?B:?No答案二：否Answer?C:?Sometimes答案三：有时候是The?correct?answer?to?the?above?question,?for?you?and?for?me,?is:上述问题的正确答案是：“三：有时候是”，这是我的答案，兴许也是你的答案。If?you?think?about?your?circle?of?friends,?work?associates?and?family?members,?you?can?almostcertainly?pick?out?one?or?more?people?among?them?who?are?generally?not?good?listeners.?They’retoo?busy?listening?to?themselves?or?rushing?around?impatiently,?or?whatever.?You?have?probablybecome?accustomed?to?their?weakness?in?this?respect,?whether?you?like?it?or?not.?If?thisperson?happens?to?be?your?boss,?you’re?in?bad?luck,?but?far?from?alone.历数身边的朋友、同事和亲戚，你肯定会毫不犹豫地从中挑选出一个甚至几个不善倾听的人。他们整天忙着自说自话、东奔西走或是其他事情。无论你是否喜欢，你可能早就对他们的这些缺点习以为常。假如这个人恰好又是你的老板，那你的运气可真够差的！不过，你绝不是唯一的倒霉蛋儿。Equally,?if?you?think?hard,?you?can?probably?think?of?someone?you?know?who?is?a?very?goodlistener.?If?you’re?fortunate,?that?person?is?a?good?friend,?loved?one,?close?colleague,?ormentor.?If?that?person?is?your?boss,?then?it’s?equivalent?to?winning?the?Mark?Six,?and?you?arevery?lucky?indeed.同理，如果你使劲儿想想，肯定也能从认识的人里找到好的听众。走运的话，这个人可能是你的好友、至爱、搭档或者良师。如果碰巧这个人是你的顶头上司，那你简直是幸运透顶，不亚于中了六合彩。All?too?often,?we?associate?the?benefits?of?good?listening?skills?with?achieving?very?specificoutcomes,?like?following?the?boss’s?orders?(aimed?at?getting?a?job?promotion,?etc.),?getting?agood?test?score?(aimed?at?gaining?admission?to?a?good?school),?completing?a?list?of?assignedtasks?(e.g.?doing?the?household?errands?in?a?timely?manner,?aimed?at?avoiding?harsh?wordsfrom?the?higher?authorities).太多的情况下，我们总是把善于倾听的好处和实现极为特定的目标直接挂钩，比如对老板唯命是从（目的是获得晋升机会等）、提高考试成绩（以便考取名校）、完成分配的各项任务（比如及时做完家务，免遭长辈训斥）。We?tend?to?undervalue?the?importance?of?our?listening?skills?as?well?as?the?scope?of?theirpotential?application.?We?think?of?them?as?something?pretty?basic,?which?we?mastered?in?ourformal?schooling,?a