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1. The ability to deal with ones own negative emotions We become what we think about all day long. - Ralph Waldo Emerson Perhaps no aspect of EQ is more important than our ability to effectively manage our own negative emotions, so they dont overwhelm us and affect our judgment. In order to change the way we feel about a situation, we must first change the way we think about it. Neuro-psychiatrist Dr. Daniel Amen developed an easy to practice exercise called ANT Therapy - Killing our Automatic Negative Thoughts, which helps us examine the nature of our negative experiences, and relate to it in such a way as to reduce our negative emotions. Click on this video link ( /watch?v=7SGDnL1j7lw) to see Dr. Amen explain ANT Therapy (from 01:04 to the end of the clip, and at the very beginning of the next sequence). 2. The ability to stay cool under pressure Trouble comes from the mouth. - Chinese proverb Most of us experience some level of stress in life. How we handle stressful situations can make the difference between being assertive versus reactive, and poised versus frazzled. When under pressure, the most important thing to keep in mind is to keep our cool. Here are some quick tips: A. If you feel angry and upset with someone, before you say something you might later regret, take a deep breath and count slowly to ten. In most circumstances, by the time you reach ten, you would have figured out a better way of communicating the issue, so that you can reduce, instead of complicate the problem. If youre still upset after counting to ten, take a time out if possible, and revisit the issue after you calm down. B. If you feel nervous and anxious, put cold water on your face and get some fresh air. Cool temperature can help reduce our anxiety level. Avoid caffeinated beverages which can stimulate your nervousness. C. If you feel fearful, depressed, or discouraged, try intense aerobic exercises. Energize yourself. The way we use our body affects greatly the way we feel. As the