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Have?you?ever?known?a?married?couple?that?just?didnt?seem?as?though?they?should?fit?together?--? yet?they?are?both?happy?in?the?marriage,?and?you?cant?figure?out?why??I?know?of?one?couple:? He?is?a?burly?ex-athlete.?Meanwhile,?his?wife?is?petite,?quiet?and?a?complete?homebody.? She?doesnt?even?go?out?to?dinner.?　　?What?mysterious?force?drives?us?into?the?arms?of?one?person,? while?pushing?us?away?from?another?who?might?appear?equally?desirable?to?any?unbiased?observer?　　?One?of?the?many?factors?influencing?our?idea?of?the?perfect?mate,?one?of?the?most?telling,? according?to?John?Money,?professor?emeritus?of?medical?psychology?and?pediatrics?at?Johns?Hopkins?University,? is?what?he?calls?our??lovemap?--?a?group?of?messages?encoded?in?our?brains? that?describes?our?likes?and?dislikes.? It?shows?our?preferences?in?hair?and?eye?color,?in?voice,?smell，body?build.? It?also?records?the?kind?of?personality?that?appeals?to?us,? whether?its?the?warm?and?friendly?type?or?the?strong,?silent?type.　　?In?short,?we?fall?for?and?pursue?those?people?who?most?clearly?fit?our?lovemap.? And?this?lovemap?is?largely?determined?in?childhood.? By?age?eight,?the?pattern?for?our?ideal?mate?has?already?begun?to?float?around?in?our?brains.　　?When?were?little,?our?mother?is?the?center?of?our?attention,?and?we?are?the?center?of?hers. ?So?our?mothers?characteristics?leave?an?indelible?impression,? we?are?forever?attracted?to?people?with?her??facial?features,?body?type,?personality,?even?sense?of?humor.? If?our?mother?was?warm?and?giving,?as?adults?we?tend?to?be?attracted?to?people?who?are?warm?and?giving.? If?our?mother?was?strong?and?even-tempered,?we?are?going?to?be?attracted?to?a?fair-minded?strength?in?our?mates.　　?The?mother?has?an?additional?influence?on?her?sons:? she?not?only?gives?them?clues?to?what?they?will?find?attractive?in?a?mate,? but?also?affects?how?they?feel?about?women?in?general.? So?if?she?is?warm?and?nice,?her?sons?are?going?to?think?thats?the?way?women?are.? They?