你是否希望改变孤独的现状？.docVIP

2013-10-13 12:40阅读(432) ？Feeling Lonely and Want to Change? Feeling lonely is one of the worst emotional situations we know of. After you take care of your physical needs (food, shelter and security), the need for friendship can only grow bigger. 众所周知，孤单是一种很糟糕的境况。在生理需求（食物，家具，安全）得到满足后，人与人之间的友谊就会被放大。 Being alone, not having someone to share your worries and hopes with, makes you feel a certain kind of emptiness. It’s actually natural for your body to make you feel that way: our physiology is designed to push us to go and socialize, and stay CLOSE to people. 独自一人，没有人可以分担你的忧虑，与你共享理想，这些都会让你感到空虚。我们本能的会让我们参与社交活动，与人亲近。 Why Feeling Lonely Can Get Worse With Time. 随着时间流逝，为什么会觉得越来越孤独？ Maybe you noticed that when you are lonely, you start to feel cynical and suspicious of people. That’s normal because deep down in our nature, loneliness is associated with rejection and danger. These emotions are tied with loneliness. 在孤独地时候，你开始对人冷漠，疑神疑鬼。就人类本性而言，心情低落是很正常的，孤独也总是与拒绝、危险紧紧相连。这类情感总是与孤独并存。 Even if YOU decide that you want to be left alone, you still feel that society is rejecting you, and the mental gap between you and other people grows bigger if you don’t do something to stop to it. This can lead to loneliness worsening by other means: 即使你已经决定想要自己一个人，但是你依然会感觉到社会在排斥你，如果你不做点什么事去阻止它，这种鸿沟只会越来越大。以下这些方式会加重孤独感： ·You stop relating to normal people because you spend a lot of time on your own, which makes it even harder to start making friends. 你用的很多时间在自己的事情上，不与那些正常的人交往，这样也会很难交到朋友。 ·You start losing your social skills. Social intelligence is like any other kind of intelligence: if you don’t use it, you lose it. 开始遗忘一些社交技巧。它与其他的一些技巧一样，不用就忘了。 ·You become irritable: when you’re lonely, problems and setbacks start to seem bigger to you. 开始变得暴躁。独自一人的时候，问题和挫折似乎就变得更困难。 ·You lose some of your motivation: after long periods of hard-work, a bit of socializing can give you all the energy you need. The lack of it can make goals matter less. 遗失往日的激情：一段时间的辛苦工作后，一些社会活动会带给你一些你所需的能量。没有它，没有目标。 The thing is, l