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Lecture 13 Positive Psychology 制定自我和谐的目标 Carpe Diem. Seize the day. So let’s continue on this path and go a little bit more in depth into this idea of self-concordance. What are some benefits of self-concordance? The first one, and there are many, the first one is the obvious one. You don’t need to be a rocket scientist, or even a social scientist to understand that setting self-concordant goals can potentially make us happier. Because we are pursuing something we care about, it is more likely to reinforce our enjoyment of the journey. The second thing, in addition to increasing well-being, certainly connected to well-being is that very often, having self-concordant goals, having goals in general, but in particular self-concordant goals, resolves internal conflicts. For example, it helps us deal with anxiety, with uncertainty, with existential questions, “what am I about? What am I doing? Why am I here? ” and if you think about it , very often when we go through periods when we are not sure where we are going, where every fork in the road is about ambivalence and uncertainty, that’s when existential questions come up. That’s when there’s uncertainty. That’s when very often, there’s unhappiness, whereas when we know what our path is, it helps to resolve internal conflict. An interesting way to think about it is by drawing comparison to interpersonal conflicts. So here we are talking about intra-personal conflicts , within, anxiety, depression, often a result of that. But there’s a lot of research on interpersonal conflicts. And I talked about briefly when I discussed practical idealism and conflict resolution. And the way to deal with the conflicts, the best way to deal with the conflicts and resolve them is to have a super ordinate goal, a goal in which both sides, both conflicting sides engage in and are dependent on one another or intra-dependent. And that resolves interpersonal or inter-group conflicts. This is work of Muzafer Sherif or Elliot Aronson. In t