TED演讲训练 4分钟让一个人爱上你 Falling in love is the easy part.docxVIP

PAGE 231 Lesson13 情感专家实验：4分钟让一个人爱上你 Falling in love is the easy part Speaker：：Mandy Len Catron 英文版 00:00 I published this article in the New York Times Modern Love column in January of this year. To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This. And the article is about a psychological study designed to create romantic love in the laboratory, and my own experience trying the study myself one night last summer. 00:19 So the procedure is fairly simple: two strangers take turns asking each other 36 increasingly personal questions and then they stare into each others eyes without speaking for four minutes. 00:35 So here are a couple of sample questions. 00:38 Number 12: If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be? 00:46 Number 28: When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself? 00:52 As you can see, they really do get more personal as they go along. 00:56 Number 30, I really like this one: Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things you might not say to someone you just met. 01:08 So when I first came across this study a few years earlier, one detail really stuck out to me, and that was the rumor that two of the participants had gotten married six months later, and theyd invited the entire lab to the ceremony. So I was of course very skeptical about this process of just manufacturing romantic love, but of course I was intrigued. And when I got the chance to try this study myself, with someone I knew but not particularly well, I wasnt expecting to fall in love. But then we did, and -- 01:49 And I thought it made a good story, so I sent it to the Modern Love column a few months later. 01:55 Now, this was published in January, and now it is August, so Im guessing that some of you are probably wondering, are we still together? And the reason I think you might be wondering this is because I have been asked this question again and again and again for the past seven months. And