2024届高三下学期英语培优外刊阅读学案 性格话题（含答案）.docx

高三英语培优外刊阅读

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外刊精选｜学会做人？做一个带给别人温暖的人

人际关系一切皆在“分寸”之间：太拘谨会显得疏远，太热情又显得越界。《纽约时报》资深记者大卫·布鲁克斯在过去四年中致力于深入探寻“理解他人”和“被他人理解”的本质内涵。他写道，真正的社交技巧，不是一味地向他人敞开心扉，而在于你能否成为一位优秀的倾听者、关怀者、启迪者。跟随他的视角，我们试图追问：为什么要学习理解他人？如何放下对他人的抗拒，做一个温暖的人？

TheEssentialSkillsforBeingHuman

ByDavidBrooks

Whetheritwasnatureornurture,Igrewintoapersonwhowasabitdetached,whichwasgoodforacareerinjournalismbutnotforemotionalavailabilityorajoyouslife.Intruth,Iwasapracticedescapeartist.Ifyourevealedsomevulnerableintimacytome,Iwasgoodatmakingmeaningfuleyecontactwithyourshoesandthenexcusingmyselftokeepavitallyimportantappointmentwithmydrycleaner.

Lifehasawayoftenderizingyou,though.Imnotanexceptionalperson,butIamagrower.

Ihavelearnedsomethingprofoundalongtheway.Beingopenheartedisaprerequisiteforbeingafull,kindandwisehumanbeing.Butitisnotenough.Peopleneedsocialskills:beingcuriousaboutotherpeople;disagreeingwithoutpoisoningrelationships;revealingvulnerabilityatanappropriatepace;beingagoodlistener;knowinghowtoaskforandofferforgiveness;knowinghowtohostagatheringwhereeveryonefeelsembraced;knowinghowtoseethingsfromanotherspointofview.

Inanycollectionofhumans,therearediminishersandthereareilluminators.Diminishersaresointothemselves;theymakeothersfeelinsignificant.Theystereotypeandlabel.Iftheylearnonethingaboutyou,theyproceedtomakeaseriesofassumptionsaboutwhoyoumustbe.

Illuminators,ontheotherhand,haveapersistentcuriosityaboutotherpeople.Theyhavebeentrainedorhavetrainedthemselvesinthecraftofunderstandingothers.Theyknowhowtoasktherightquestionsattherighttimes—sothattheycanseethings,atleastabit,fromanotherspointofview.Theyshinethebrightnessoftheircareonpeopleandmakethemfeelbigger,respected,litup.

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