TED演讲-带标注我不想要孩子 别再告诉我我会改变.docxVIP

TED我不想要孩?

别再告诉我我会改变主意

题目：Idontwantchildren--stoptellingmeIllchangemymind

作者:ChristenReighter

Irecognizedtherolesthatwereplacedonmeveryearly.One persistentconceptthatIobserved--existinginourlanguage,in

ourmedia--wasthatwomenarenotonlysupposedtohavechildren,theyaresupposedtowantto.Thisexistedeverywhere.Itexistedinthewaysthatadultsspoketomewhentheyposedquestionsinthecontextofwhen.Whenyougetmarried...Whenyouhavekids...AndthesefuturemusingswerealwayspresentedtomelikepartofthisAmericandream,butitalwaysfelttomelikesomeoneelsesdream.Yousee,avaluethatIhavealwaysunderstoodaboutmyselfwasthatIneverwantedchildren.Andasakid,whenIwouldtrytoexplainthis,thisdisconnectbetweentheirrolesandmyvalues,theyoftenlaughedinthewaythatadultsdoattheabsurditiesofchildren.Andtheywouldtellmeknowingly,Youllchangeyourmind.

我在?时候就认识到了??被设置的??。据我观察，有?个根深蒂固的观念，存在于我们的语?和媒体中。那就是??不仅应当有孩?，?且她们想要有孩?。这种观念?处不在。当??们在“当你……”的语境中提问，它就存在于他们跟我说话的?式?。“当你结婚的时候……”“当你有了孩?……”对未来的这些思考总是呈现在我?前，就像美国梦?样，但对我来说，这就像是别?的梦想。我?直了解??的价值观，那就是我从来没想过要孩?。但我很?的时候，我试图去向??们解释他们的??和我价值观的脱节时，他们经常笑我，以?种??对待?孩的?稽之谈的?式。并且他们仿佛什么都知道?样告诉我，“你会回?转意的。”

Andpeoplehavebeensayingthingslikethattomemywholelife.Otherwisepoliteconversationcanturnintrusivefast.Doesyourhusbandknow?

在我的整个??中，?们?直这样对我说，要么礼貌的谈话会很快变得具有侵扰性。“你的丈夫知道吗？”

persistentconcept

根深蒂固的观念

musings

n.沉思

absurdity

n.荒谬

knowingly

adv.故意地

intru

intrusive

adj.侵?的

Doyourparentsknow?

“你的?母知道吗？”

Dontyouwantafamily?Dontyouwanttoleaveanythingbehind?Andtheprimarybuzzwordwhendiscussingchildlessness,Thatsselfish.

“你不想要?个家庭吗？”“你不想在?后留下点什么吗？”在讨论???问题的时候，最流?的词就是，“这太?私了。”

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