Smacking or Reasoning.ppt

Smacking or Reasoning? Smacking or Reasoning? Part I When parents make a lot of rules about their childrens behavior, they make trouble for themselves. 1 used to spend half my time making sure my rules were obeyed, and the other half answering questions like Jack can get up whenever he likes, so why cant I? or Why cant 1 play with Angela? Jacks mum doesnt mind who he plays with or Jack can drink anything he likes. Why cant 1 drink wine too? Smacking or Reasoning? Jacks mum, I decided, was a wise woman. I started saying things like Of course, dear. You can drink as much wine as you like and No, I dont mind how late you get up and Yes, dear, you can play with Angela as often as you like. The results have been marvelous. They dont want to get up late any more, theyve decided they dont like wine, and, most important, theyve stopped playing with Angela. Ive now realized (as Jacks mum realized a long time ago) that they only wanted to do all these nasty things because they werent allowed to. Smacking or Reasoning? Part II .. Good afternoon. And welcome to our midweek Phone-In. In todays program were going to concentrate on personal problems. And here with me in the studio Ive got Tessa Colbeck, who writes the agony column in Flash magazine, and Doctor Maurice Rex, Student Medical Adviser at the University of Norfolk. The number to ring with your problem is 01, if youre outside London, two two two, two one two two. And we have our first caller on the line, and its Rosemary, I think, er calling from Manchester. Hello Rosemary. presenter: How can we help you, Rosemary? Smacking or Reasoning? Rosemary: Well, its my dad. He wont let me stay out after ten oclock at night and all my friends can stay out much longer than that. I always have to go home first. Its really embarrassing ... Tessa: Hello, Rosemary, love. Rosemary, how old are you dear? Rosemary: Im fifteen in two months time. Tessa: And where do you go at night - when you go out? Rosemary: Just