【TED】Liespotting_PamelaMeyer_演讲稿.docVIP

Liespotting --- PamelaMeyer Okay, now I dont want to alarm anybody in this room, but its just come to my attention that the person to your right is a liar. (Laughter) Also, the person to your left is a liar. Also the person sitting in your very seats is a liar. Were all liars. What Im going to do today is Im going to show you what the research says about why were all liars, how you can become a liespotter and why you might want to go the extra mile and go from liespotting to truth seeking, and ultimately to trust building. Now speaking of trust, ever since I wrote this book, Liespotting, no one wants to meet me in person anymore, no, no, no, no, no. They say, Its okay, well email you. (Laughter) I cant even get a coffee date at Starbucks. My husbands like, Honey, deception? Maybe you could have focused on cooking. How about French cooking? So before I get started, what Im going to do is Im going to clarify my goal for you, which is not to teach a game of Gotcha. Liespotters arent those nitpicky kids, those kids in the back of the room that are shouting, Gotcha! Gotcha! Your eyebrow twitched. You flared your nostril. I watch that TV show Lie To Me. I know youre lying. No, liespotters are armed with scientific knowledge of how to spot deception. They use it to get to the truth, and they do what mature leaders do everyday; they have difficult conversations with difficult people, sometimes during very difficult times. And they start up that path by accepting a core proposition, and that proposition is the following: Lying is a cooperative act. Think about it, a lie has no power whatsoever by its mere utterance. Its power emerges when someone else agrees to believe the lie. So I know it may sound like tough love, but look, if at some point you got lied to, its because you agreed to get lied to. Truth number one about lying: Lyings a cooperative act. Now not all lies are harmful. Sometimes were willing participants in deception for the sake of social dignity, maybe to