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Attraction Intimacy Who do you love? What is love? Why do fools fall in love? Will you love me forever? Let me sleep on it, I’ll give you an answer in the morning (Meatloaf, 1978). What factors predict liking? Proximity – geographical nearness mere exposure anticipation of interaction Attractiveness – “what is beautiful is good” Similarity – attitudes, personality. Reinforcement – liking for a person will result under conditions in which a person experiences positive or negative reinforcement in the presence of that person. What is love? Types of love: I. Passionate vs. Companionate love Companionate love is the strong affection we have for those with whom our lives are deeply involved. Passionate love is a state of intense absorption in someone. It involves arousal and intense desire and often has a swift onset. The Bridge Study Types of Love II. Sternberg’s Triangle Model 3 ingredients of consummate love: Intimacy- feelings of closeness, affection, and connectedness Passion- motivational drives relating to sex, physical closeness and romance Decision/commitment- initial thought of love and long-term determination to maintain that love Individual Differences in Relationship Style Gender Women rate financial independence/career as more important in a mate than men; men rate physical attractiveness as more important than women. Women tend to prefer older men; men tend to prefer younger women. Women report more emotional jealousy; men report more sexual jealousy (Buss). Individual Differences in Relationship Style Attachment Theory—children learn relationship behaviors that are modeled by parents. Secure attachment-child learns to nurture intimacy, feels secure in relationships with others. Avoidant attachment-child learns to starve intimacy by being emotionally distant, avoids commitment and closeness in relationships with others. Anxious/ambivalent attachment-child learns to smother intimacy by being possessive, jealous, and emotionally demanding. Individual D