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与人闲聊是技术活：如何与人闲聊？How to Make SmallTalk with Others？Actually making small talk doesn’t have to be painful， even if it’s with a boss you want to impress or blind date you want to see a lot more of！Believe it or not， making small talk can be fun―even for quiet personality types. Making small talk is also an art that can be learned.“So… how about this weather？” doesn’t often lead to stimulating dialogue （but don’t hesitate to use it if you’re desperate）. If you must make small talk about the weather， be specific. Say， “It’s freezing cold outside―have you ever heard that saying， ‘colder than ________’ ？ Where did that come from， anyway？” might work better， depending on who you’re talking to.Making small talk can be difficult even if you’re an extrovert， but it’s especially difficult for introverts. Here are 10 tips for starting conversations with people you don’t know.Keep up with current events. Make small talk about the news， sports， your community.与时俱进，跟上时事。可以闲聊当下的新闻、（流行的）运动、你的社区。Comment on a piece of clothing or accessory. Ask where it came from， what the significance is， and how much it cost （just kidding）. Making small talk is about being observant about people you don’t know well.适度地赞扬对方的衣服或者小装饰品。可以问对方是哪儿买的、为什么买、多少钱（开个玩笑）之类的。闲聊就是善于观察你不熟悉的人。Pay attention to what they’re saying. When you’re making small talk， follow up on phrases. For instance， if they say “they’re excellent”， ask “why” or “where you can get some”. If they mention that they’re exhausted， follow up on it. When you’re making small talk， remember that great conversations and good connections can be just around the corner.善于倾听。在闲聊时，要时刻表现出对对方话题的关注和兴趣。举个例子吧，如果对方说“他们简直太棒了”，你就接着问“为什么”或者问“到哪儿才能尝试下这些很棒的东西”。如果对方说很累，同样地就“累”这个话题发挥下去。请记住，当你闲聊的时候，成功的交谈和良好关系的建立其实很简单，没你想得那么遥不可及。Share an anecdote about your day. Did you lose your keys or find $10？ Maybe you ate at a new restaurant recently， or found a great new CD. Making small talk is about sharing the little things.分享你生活中的一些琐碎小事。你丢了钥匙或捡到了10美金吗？或许是你最近发现一家新餐馆，或一张很棒的新C