如何提高你的影响力(卡耐基)课件.pptVIP

如何提高你的影响力How to Enhance Your Influencing Power 一、 如何受到他人的欢迎 How to be a popular person? 批评就像家鸽，最后总会飞回家里 Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness. “To know all is to forgive all.” As Dr. Johnson said:“God himself, sir, does not propose to judge man until the end of his days.” Why should you and I? 渴望欣赏 Lets cease thinking of our accomplishments,our wants . Lets try to figure out the other persons good points. Then forget flattery.Give honest ,sincere appreciation.Be heartly in your approbation and lavish in your praise,and people will cherish your words and treasure them and repeat them over a lifetime - repeat them years after you have forgotten them. 先人后己 Here is one of the best bits of advice ever given about the fine art of human relationships.“if there is any one secret of success”,said Henry Ford,“it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angles as well as from your own.” 首先想到他人的需求，引起他人内心迫切渴望的需求 要对方喜欢你，那么你要先喜欢对方 If you want to make friends,let’s put ourselves out to do things for other people -things that require time ,energy,unselfishness and thoughtfulness. If we want to make friends,let’s greet people with animation and enthusiasm.When somebody calls you on the telephone use the same psychology.Say “Hello” in tones that bespeak how pleased YOU are to have the person call. 真挚地关切他人。 用微笑给人留下最佳的第一印象 Actions speak louder than words ,and a smile says ,“I like you.You make me happy.I am glad to see you.” Your smile is a messenger of your good will.Your smile brightens the lives of all who see it.To someone who has seen a dozen people frown,scowl or turn their faces away,your smile is like the sun breaking through the clouds.Especially when that someone is under pressure from his bosses,his cu