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7 ways to make your life more joyful 7种方式让你的生活更快乐 Your cell phone is ringing. Your inbox is overflowing. Your friend wants to discuss her sons glue-sniffing habit. Martha Beck has news for you—you dont have to Be There for all people all the time. Just follow her escape routes. 手机铃声响个不停，收件箱爆满，朋友想讨论她儿子吸强力胶（以达麻醉、迷幻效果）的习惯。Martha Beck告诉你——你不必事事、时时帮助每个人，遵循她的“逃跑”路线吧。 The great English writer E.M. Forster may have valued connection above all else, but for us 21st-century folks, disconnection is as necessary as connection for creating a healthy, happy life. When we force ourselves to connect against our hearts desires, we create false, resentful relationships; when we disconnect from the people who deplete us, we set them free to find their tribes while we find ours. Ive listed some of my favorite disconnection strategies below, in the hope that you might find them useful. 伟大英国作家爱德华·摩根·福斯特也许把关系看得比什么都重要，但是对21世纪的我们来说，想要过健康快乐的生活，脱离关系和拥有关系一样必要。违背心愿建立的关系是虚假、怨恨的关系；当我们脱离那些损耗我们的人，我们给了他们寻找同类的自由，也给了我们自己寻找同类的自由。下面列出了一些我最喜爱的脱离方法，希望有用。 1. Hide. Blame my high school English teacher—Ill call her Mrs. Jensen—who married at 17, bore her first child at 19, and was a farmwife and mother of four by age 22. When she felt overwhelmed, shed retreat into a field of tall corn near her house and hide there, listening to her children search for her, until she heard a cry of genuine pain or felt ready to reconnect, whichever came first. Martha, Mrs. Jensen told me, every woman needs a cornfield. No matter whats happening in your life, find yourself a cornfield and hide there whenever you need to. 隐藏。想出这点子，都怪那个叫Jensen夫人的高中英语老师。她十七岁嫁人，十九岁生下第一个孩子，二十二岁时，这农妇是四个孩子的妈。当她感到无法应对时，她会躲入她家附近一片高玉米地，听着孩子寻找她的声音，直到听见真正痛苦的哭喊，或自己准备恢复与现实生活的联系。Jensen曾告诉我：“Martha，每个女人都需要一片玉米地。不管发生了什么，找到自己的一片玉米地，需要的时候躲起来。” Ive used hundreds of other cornfields over the years: cars, forests, hotels, bathrooms. Ive been known to hide for days, but even a few minutes can calm my strung-out nerves—or yours. If you dont already have a cornfield