成长的力量（The power of growth）.docVIP

成长的力量（The power of growth） The power of growth Self refers to the boundaries in the interpersonal relationship, the individual and others are aware of their responsibility and power, both to protect their own personal space is inviolable, nor infringe personal space. From the view of psychological development, ego boundaries are gradually formed. The fetus in the mothers body, he felt that he and his mother is one of the mother, is he, he is a part of the mother. After birth, although has been separated from the mother in the flesh, but in the mind is still together. No mother or mother substitute, he couldnt live a day. As the children grew up, and the mothers psychological distance is more and more far. The process of growing up, is also with her mother in psychological separation. Get more open, which means better growth. Unfortunately, a lot of people will form a separate part of the mother, and another part is still linked to the situation in the process of growing up, this is not a complete growth. In a statement, that is: in this condition, the boundaries between self and his mother is not clear. This line is not clear the situation will be projected onto all of his relationships. The specific performance is: on the one hand, he would be too much to expose their inner world in front of others, too eager to understand themselves and others, excessive dependence on others, others in the hope should make their own decisions instead of making your own decisions; on the other hand, he will be too much to understand other peoples inner world in order to obtain, and others feel, others also want to rely on their own, even if others wish to participate in are personal decisions, etc.. In the self unclear boundaries of the human heart, there is always a conflict between growth and growth. Of course, the power of growth is very great. Once scientists tested plant growth power: use some thin iron bound pumpkin, pumpkin grew up, is an easy job to do the iron bar snapped.