倾听的力量TED演讲稿.docVIP

Listening is an active skill. Whereas hearing is passive, listening is something that we have to work at. Its a relationship with sound. And yet its a skill that none of us are taught. For example, have you ever considered that there are listening positions, places you can listen from? Here are two of them. Reductive listening is listening for. It reduces everything down to whats relevant and it discards everything thats not relevant. Men typically listen reductively. So hes saying, Ive got this problem. Hes saying, Heres your solution. Thanks very much. Next. Thats the way we talk, right guys? Expansive listening, on the other hand, is listening with, not listening for. Its got no destination in mind. Its just enjoying the journey. Women typically listen expansively. If you look at these two, eye contact, facing each other, possibly both talking at the same time. Men, if you get nothing else out of this talk, practice expansive listening, and you can transform your relationships. 认真倾听是一种主动技能。普通地听是被动的，而倾听却是要花功夫的。倾听是处理声音与声音之间的关系。它也是一种与生俱来的能力。比如，你考虑过倾听也有不同的姿势，以便你接收声音吗？看以下两个例子。删减性的倾听是有“选择”的听。它会只关注你想要知道的东西，而忽略无关紧要的内容。男人通常会删减性的倾听。比如一个人说：“我有个问题。”另一个人说：“这是你的答案。多谢。下一位。”这就是我们谈话的方式，对吧，男士们？ 而另外一种，扩展性的倾听是“无目的”，“无选择”的。听你脑海里并没有明确的目标而只是享受听的过程。女人通常会扩展性的倾听。看看这两位，面对面，保持眼神交流，可能两人同时都在说话。男士们，如果你们谈话时觉得索然无味，试试扩展性的倾听，或许可以改善你们的关系。 The first really big health issue is a word that Murray Schafer coined: schizophonia. Its a dislocation between what you see and what you hear. So, were inviting into our lives the voices of people who are not present with us. I think theres something deeply unhealthy about living all the time in schizophonia. The second problem that comes with headphone abuse is compression. We squash music to fit it into our pocket and there is a cost attached to this. Listen to this -- this is an uncompressed piece of music. And now the same piece of music with 98% of the data removed. I do hope that some of you at least can hear the difference between those two. There is a cos