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成功人士是怎样应对愤怒情绪的生活中，每个人都会产生愤怒的情绪，但大多数人会被这种情绪控制，从而影响到自己的工作或者生活。但成功人士却能够很好地应对愤怒情绪，来看看吧In Their Head:在心理上：1. They accept that anger is natural and healthy他们明白：接受愤怒是自然的，健康的When you recognise anger as an essential and necessary emotion, you stop being afraid of it. Only when you’re no longer afraid of it can you start managing its manifestations.当你承认愤怒是一种必要的，必须的情绪时，你就不会再害怕。只有不害怕的时候，你才能开始控制它带来的影响。Fear breeds defensive thoughts and behaviours, but when you embrace something, you put yourself in charge. Being in charge of your anger allows you to express it calmly and constructively.恐惧会滋生防御性的想法和行为，但是当你接受某件事的时候，你就把自己放到了掌控者的位置。掌控自己的愤怒让你可以平静地、，建设性地表达愤怒。2. They focus on ‘I’ statements他们习惯第一人称的表达方式Most people experiencing anger talk in ‘you’ statements like “you are making me late” or “you still haven’t finished the report that was due this morning.” This type of language naturally makes other people defensive and less likely to want to help you out.大部分人愤怒时总会以第一人称表达，比如“你让我快迟到了，”或者“你还没完成今天早上应该交的报告”。这种类型的语言很自然会让他人产生敌对心理，不可能帮你摆脱困境。By talking in ‘I’ statements instead, the people you’re talking to are more likely to help. Talking in ‘I’ statements will also help you focus on how to fix the problem rather than just complaining that the problem exists. Try these instead: “I don’t like to be late, it reflects poorly on our team” and “I really need that report, is there anything I can do to help.”以第一人称的叙述方式，对方更有可能帮忙，还能帮你集中经理寻求解决问题的方法，而不是一味抱怨已经存在的问题。尝试下列表述方法：“我不喜欢迟到，这有损我们的团队形象”或者“我非常需要那份报告，我能做点什么来帮忙吗？”3. They avoid negative self-talk他们避免消极的自我暗示There’s nothing wrong with being self critical, but when your negative self-talk holds you back from personal, emotional and professional growth you need to act.自我批评没有什么错，但是当自我暗示阻碍了你的个人，情感和职业成长时，你就需要采取行动了。When you embrace your imperfections you’re more likely to think about how to improve, rather than what’s ‘wrong’ with you, which over a long period of time, can lead to stress and depression. Take a more positive and constructive view of yourself an