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Friendship in China and the West For Chinese a true friendship endures throughout life change. Chinese people will consider someone a friend even if they haven’t spoken for 20 years. If you shared something at one time, then all your life you are friends. This is the best of Guanxi, the Wide Web that connects through time and space. Chinese invented the Internet long before Bill Gates was born. 这就是最好的“关系”，即跨越时空将中国人维系在一起的“万维网”。 In North America, even the relationship in which people feel close and tell each other personal problems may not survive life changes such as moving to another city, graduation from a university, a change in economic circumstances, or marriage. If the people do not see each other regularly, the relationship is likely to die. Different foundations for friendships Westerners expects friends to be independent Chinese usually expect more from their friends Chinese friends share “things in common”: a task, a class, the hometown. Friendships are formed by people who work or go to school together. You may or may not like the person, but if he or she can do something for you because of his position or job, you can be friends. But in North America, business and friendship are kept separate. The friendships are usually tied to specific activities. A person may have work friends and leisure activity friends. Also friends tend to have similar financial circumstances, because friendship in the West is based on equality. Friends should exchange similar activities and give similar things to each other. If one can afford to treat the other to a meal at an expensive restaurant and the other does not have enough money to do the same, it will cause problems in the relationship. Western people prefer people to be independent, so they do not feel comfortable in a relationship in which one person is giving more and the other is dependent on what is giving. Their friendship is mostly a matter of providing emotional support and spending time together. A Wes