YOUR ORDINARY SELF IS GOOD ENOUGH — A 3-PART SERIES.docVIP

YOUR ORDINARY SELF IS GOOD ENOUGH — A 3-PART SERIES You need only to claim the events of your life to make yourself yours.When you truly possess all you have been and done … you are fierce with reality.— Florida Scott-MaxwellPART 1: THE CURE CAN BE WORSE THAN THE DISEASEIn my coaching work, I help people create simple, integrated, and successful lives — in spite of the problems, circumstances, and adversity they face. However, I often run across those who think they can not learn to create until they fix who they are.Such people believe that they cant produce the results they care about until they develop more self-esteem, increase their self-confidence, process issues about their past, feel better about themselves, develop more determination, or solve their most pressing problems. Some believe they must do all of those things before they can even think about creating what they most want to create.Such beliefs are dangerous. Unexamined, they become self-fulfilling prophecies. Believing that they can not create the results they want, those who hold such beliefs fail to try. So they dont produce results. This proves to them that they were right — they cant create what they want with who they are. This is unfortunate because the truth is you do not have to fix yourself before you can create what matters.Your ordinary self is good enough.As the title of the first self-help book I ever read (back in 1975) put it, I Aint Much Baby, But Im All Ive Got. Your ordinary self is what you have to work with, and it is all you need to begin to create results you want. Along the way, you may discover that there are things you need to learn, skills to develop, attitudes you adjust, and new ways of doing things that you need to experiment with. However, you will be able to do those things much easier as part of the creative process than you would by framing them as problems — or worse, seeing yourself as a problem — and thinking you have to fix things before you start to crea