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如何选择人生伴侣的真正原因 HYPERLINK /?action-top-idtype-hot \t _blank 排行榜 HYPERLINK javascript:; 收藏 HYPERLINK javascript:doPrint(); 打印 HYPERLINK javascript:; 发给朋友 HYPERLINK javascript:; 举报 来源： ?? 发布者： HYPERLINK /space.php?uid=310411op=news webmaster 热度20票??浏览2833次 【 HYPERLINK /?action-viewcomment-itemid-201 \o 点击查看 \t _blank 共2条评论】【 HYPERLINK /?action-viewcomment-itemid-201 我要评论】 时间：2008年8月28日 10:28 Have you ever known a married couple that just didnt seem as though they should fit together--yet they are both happy in the marriage, and you cant figure out why? I know of one couple: He is a burly ex-athlete who, in addition to being a successful salesman, coached Little League, was active in his Rotary Club and played golf every Saturday with friends. Meanwhile, his wife is petite, quiet and a complete homebody. She doesnt even like to go out to dinner. What mysterious force drives us into the arms of one person, while pushing us away from another who might appear equally desirable to any unbiased observer? Of the many factors influencing our idea of the perfect mate, one of the most telling, according to John Money, professor emeritus of medical psychology and pediatrics at Johns Hopkins University, is what he calls our lovemap--a group of messages encoded in our brains that describes our likes and dislikes. It shows our preferences in hair and eye color, in voice, smell, body build. It also records the kind of personality that appeals to us, whether its the warm and friendly type or the strong, silent type. In short, we fall for and pursue those people who most clearly fit our lovemap. And this lovemap is largely determined in childhood. By age eight, the pattern for our ideal mate has already begun to float around in our brains. When I lecture, I often ask couples in the audience what drew them to their dates or mates. Answers range from Shes strong and independent and I go for redheads to I love his sense of humor and That crooked smile, thats what did it. I beli