哈佛大学公开课——幸福课-第十课.pdfVIP

Positive Psychology –Lecture 10 Hi! Good morning! So todays lecture is about change. And things are going to change today. Our relationship is going to change today. So stay tuned. Last time, last time we ended by talking about the different kinds of change. The first approach—the gradual approach, like water wearing down stone, chipping away gradually slowly taking our time. The second approach—the acute change, the sledge hammer breaking stone creating a new pathway, a new channel. The important thing to keep in mind with both forms of changes, with all forms of changes, lasting change that is—which is what we are about—not just the spike and the return to base level. The thing to keep in mind about change is that neither is quick-fix. Even when we pick up that sledge hammer, even when we pick it up, we need to do a lot of work before the preparation. So for example, gradual change, slow change would be doing the gratitude exercise every day, slowly becoming more and more of a benefit finder, gradually looking more at the positive, creating a new neural pathway neuron by neuron. Remember neuroplasticity and neurogenesis—two very important concepts. Because just by knowing by understanding that our brain changes in and of itself makes us more likely to change. And this is work done by Carol Dweck, whom Ill discuss in future courses when we discuss perfectionism. And then the sledge hammer example is like the Eureka experience—the great insight that doesnt come in a vacuum. It comes after a lot of hard work after a lot of preparation. You know the 99% of perspiration that leads to that inspiration. So no quick-fix. And the belief in quick-fix, the expectation of the quick-fix—that is one of the reasons why levels of the depression are so high today. Because people are