Words That Work Miracles创造奇迹的话语.ppt

Words That Work Miracles; The passage starts with a dialogue between a young woman and her neighbor,she said she was unhappy because her husband took everything she did for granted and never complimented(赞扬) her .It suggests that few people in our society are aware of the importance of encouragement.After that the author puts forward his argument that every needs encouragement and that everyone must learn to praise others.Then he explains why praise can work miracles to improve interpersonal relationships. ; Positive and negative example from daily life are also provided to further illustrate the effects of encouragement through giving praise. For example ,Duke de Nivernois makes people pleased with him by making them first pleased with themselves,a tired man’s soul（灵魂） watered with his children ’s silent but golden opinion , a youngmother ’s little boy cried because he was not praised although he had been pretty good and artists find joy in giving beauty to others. ; The passage concludes with a vivid comparison and an old saying ,stressing that praise benefits the giver as well as the receiver.; Question： 1.Why did the little boy cry? A.Because his mother scolded（责骂） him. B.Because his mother hit him. C.Because his mother didnt praise him. D.Because he fell down. ;创造奇迹的话语 “也许等我活到100岁的时候，我会习惯于别人对我做的每件事所采取的理所当然的态度，”一位年轻的家庭主妇向她的邻居吐露内心的秘密。“如果比尔偶尔能对我说几句好听的话，他会使我的生活更加幸福。” 我们中很少有人意识到我们是多么需要鼓励，意识到我们必须时常感受赞扬的温暖，否则就会失去我们的自信。 我们所有的人都需要那种被人需要以及被人仰慕的感觉。但是除非我们听到别人的赞誉之词，不然我们如何能够知道我们是被他人尊重的朋友或同事呢？; 任何想改善与他人关系的人仅需表达一种赞同的理解就可以了。表达这种理解并使他人感到自己的重要性和价值的方式归结如下：经常在别人身上寻找你可羡慕和赞赏的东西并告知对方。 我们每个人都有自己的一幅心理图像，一种自我形象。为了获得比较满意的生活，这一自我形象必须是我们能够接受的、能够喜欢的。当我们对自我形象感到自豪时，我们会感到自信并会自由地展示自我。我们的表现处于最佳状态。而当我们对自我形象感到羞愧时，我们就会设法隐藏它而不是表达它。我们会变得不友好，难以相处。 一个被唤醒自尊的人的身上会出现奇迹。他会突然间更喜欢他人，他会更为善良，与周围的人更容易合作。赞扬是上光剂，有助于保持他的自我形象明亮闪光。; 但这与你赞扬别人有何关系呢？关系多多。你有能力让奇迹在另外一个人身上出现。当你增强他自尊心的时候，你会使他喜欢你、想和你合作。 切斯特菲尔德爵士向他的儿子提出这样一条不同寻常的建议，要他效仿德尼韦奴瓦公爵：“你