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By Christine How fights start Arguments Revenge Peer Pressure Control Arguments Anger Hurt Pride and Embarrassment Anger The body reacts to anger the same way it does to stress. The physical changes that occur in this first stage of the stress response include tensed muscles, and increased heart and breathing rates. These changes prepare the body to fight or run. Hurt Pride and Embarrassment Situation: 1.your pride was hurt or someone embarrassed you in public. 2.Perhaps a classmate made negative remarks about your family or culture. 3.Or students from a rival school chanted insults as your football team suffered a bad defeat. 4.Maybe a friend revealed a secret that you had shared in confidence. 5.Or you walked into a room and heard someone doing an unflattering imitation of you. It is not surprising that hurt pride and embarrassment often lead to fighting. Revenge Some people mistakenly believe that fighting can settle an argument. But more often than not, this approach does not work. The person who loses the fight is usually left feeling angry and embarrassed. He or she may enlist the help of friends or family members to get revenge, or “even the score.” In cases where revenge is the motive for a fight, the fighting can quickly escalate, or grow more intense. Where the first fight may have been a fistfight, the second fight may involve knives or guns. Where the first fight may have involved only two people, the second fight may involve many more. Plus, chances are good that the second fight will not settle the argument, which will only lead to more fights. Peer Pressure The Role of Friends The Role of Bystanders The Role of Friends You might feel trapped---you don’t want to fight but you may worry that your friends would lose respect for you if you walk away. Friends who urge you to fight are acting as instigators. Instigators are people who encourage fighting between others while staying out of the fight themselves. Sometimes an instigator