父母论文爱与控制—一项与青少年家庭的合作研究.docVIP

父母论文：爱与控制—一项与青少年家庭的合作研究 【中文摘要】本文是一项以“爱与控制”为主题与青少年家庭的合作研究,选取的合作研究者是两位喜欢玩网络游戏但玩而不瘾、沉而不迷的高中生及其母亲,从孩子玩网络游戏入手,追溯他们玩网络游戏的历史,与他们一起探讨玩游戏没成瘾的原因以及父母的爱与控制发挥的作用,并在更大的生活背景中考察父母的爱与控制怎样影响孩子的成长,试图用他们的生活故事对“父母该怎样爱孩子,又该如何控制孩子,才有利于孩子的健康发展?”这个问题作出回答。在研究之初,拟选择网络游戏玩而不瘾青少年及网络游戏成瘾家庭作为合作研究者,但因联系网络游戏成瘾青少年家庭的困难及研究者本人的局限性,在论文截稿之时,没能对成瘾家庭进行正式访谈,将会在论文中呈现的是研究者与之接触的过程及研究者本人的反思。本研究发现玩而不瘾的青少年,其父母的爱与控制在其中发挥的作用如下：一、父母能在孩子开始玩网络游戏时就给予时间限制,防患于未然；二、父母能对孩子的同伴有所了解,并能洞察孩子的动向；三、父母对孩子的管教能以真正的尊重和理解为基础,以引导为主,而不是主观意愿强加的“控制”；四、父母对孩子的惩罚能富有情感性,并伴随合理解释,而不只是发泄自己的情绪；五、父母对孩子的关心能顾及身体和心理两方面； 【英文摘要】This paper studies the influence of parents love and control on children. The author choosesd two senior high school students both like playing online games but not addicted and their parents as the cooperators, traces their history of playing online games, and talks about why they are not addict and how their parents control. Through their story, the author tries to tell the role the love and control from the parent抯 plays.At the beginning of the Study, the author planed to select the non-addiction young family and the internet addiction young family as cooperators, but it is too difficult to connect them, and also because of the author抯 limitation, no formal interview was made, as a result, this paper only shows the communicate process between the author and the families. Which is a pity and it has caused the author抯 reflection.This research shows us that parents抣ove and control play an important role in the process of the children play, which is mainly embodied in the following aspects:Firstly, the parents limit time when the child began to play;Secondly, the parents know the children抯 companion, and have insight into children抯 acting;Thirdly, the parents抔uidance based on respect and understanding their children, not on subjective wishes of the “control”;Fourthly, the parents’punishment is full of emotional message, and has a reasonable explanation, not just to show his feelings;Fifthly, the parents concerned about bot