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与老爸老妈的相处指南 　　与父母相处得不是很融洽？时不时地会与父母发生争执？不用太过烦恼，大多数孩子与父母之间都会存在这样那样的问题。关键是要找出问题所在，并冷静、有礼貌地解决，这样才能让你们的亲密关系更上一层楼哦。 　　A Changing Relationship一种变化的关系 　　If there was one thing you could make parents understand about kids， what would it be？ That is one of the questions Time for Kids and KidsHealth.org recently asked in an anonymous1） poll2） conducted online. More than 8000 kids answered. We just want to spend time with you， said a 12-year-old. At 13， you cant treat me like Im 6， another kid said. An 11-year-old wrote， Being a kid is a lot harder than it looks. 　　The kids who took the poll made it clear that they want to feel close to the important people in their life―their mom， dad， and other caring adults. But their answers also show that it is not always easy to navigate3） these close relationships. 　　如果你能通过一件事让父母了解孩子，那会是什么事？最近（编注：英文原文发表于2016年3月），《时代周刊?儿童版》和儿童健康网联合在网上发起了一次匿名问卷调查，这就是列入其中的一个问题。此次调查共有8000多个孩子填写了问卷。“我们就想和你们待在一起。”一个12岁的孩子说。“我13岁了，你们不能像对待6岁小孩儿那样对待我。”另一个孩子说。一个11岁的孩子写道：“做个孩子可比表面上看起来难多了。” 　　参加此次问卷调查的孩子们明确表示，他们想与自己生活中最重要的人（他们的妈妈、爸爸和其他关心他们的成年人）有亲密感。然而他们的回答也表明，正确应对这些亲密关系并非总是那么容易。 　　Getting Along and Having Fun相处融洽，享受快乐 　　Many kids―two out of three―said they get along pretty well or very well with their parents. About four out of five kids told us that they have fun with their parents. But that doesnt mean they never disagree. In fact， most kids reported arguing with their parents， at least sometimes. 　　Its absolutely normal to disagree and argue， says DArcy Lyness， a child psychologist. But its also important to learn how to do so respectfully. About half of the kids said they are doing that. When they disagree with their parents， they say they discuss issues calmly. 　　But two out of five kids said arguments tend to involve yelling at each other. Lyness points out that shouting never helps. Speak up， and let your parents know your ideas and your opinions， she advises. But be patient. Dont use a raised， angry voice. 　　Kids made it clear that they would r