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1 I?live?in?the?land?of?Disney，?Hollywood?and?year-round?sun.?You?may?think?people?in?such?aglamorous，?fun-filled?place?are?happier?than?others.?If?so，?you?have?some?mistaken?ideasabout?the?nature?of?happiness.Many?intelligent?people?still?equate?happiness?with?fun.?The?truth?is?that?fun?andhappiness?have?little?or?nothing?in?common.?Fun?is?what?we?experience?during?an?act.?Happinessis?what?we?experience?after?an?act.?It?is?a?deeper，?more?abiding?emotion.Going?to?an?amusement?park?or?ball?game，?watching?a?movie?or?television，?are?funactivities?that?help?us?relax，?temporarily?forget?our?problems?and?maybe?even?laugh.?But?theydo?not?bring?happiness，?because?their?positive?effects?end?when?the?fun?ends.I?have?often?thought?that?if?Hollywood?stars?have?a?role?to?play，?it?is?to?teach?us?thathappiness?has?nothing?to?do?with?fun.?These?rich，?beautiful?individuals?have?constant?accessto?glamorous?parties，?fancy?cars，?expensive?homes，?everything?that?spells?“happiness”。?Butin?memoir?after?memoir，?celebrities?reveal?the?unhappiness?hidden?beneath?all?their?fun：depression，?alcoholism，?drug?addiction，?broken?marriages，?troubled?children?andprofound?loneliness.Ask?a?bachelor?why?he?resists?marriage?even?though?he?finds?dating?to?be?less?and?lesssatisfying.?If?he‘s?honest，?he?will?tell?you?that?he?is?afraid?of?making?a?commitment.?Forcommitment?is?in?fact?quite?painful.?The?single?life?is?filled?with?fun，?adventure?andexcitement.?Marriage?has?such?moments，?but?they?are?not?its?most?distinguishing?features.Similarly，?couples?that?choose?not?to?have?children?are?deciding?in?favor?of?painless?funover?painful?happiness.?They?can?dine?out?ever?they?want?and?sleep?as?late?as?they?want.Couples?with?infant?children?are?lucky?to?get?a?whole?night‘s?sleep?or?a?three-day?vacation.?Idon’t?know?any?parent?who?would?choose?the?word?fun?to?describe?raising?children.Understanding?and?accepting?that?true?happiness?has?nothing?to?do?with?fun?is?one?of?the