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Exercises;Unit 6: Reading Comprehension;2. What are the outside pressures which often affect marriage?;We usually select with unconscious accuracy a partner who will recreate with us the emotional patterns of our first homes. Each of us in love with a mate who has qualities of our parents, who will help us rediscover both psychological happiness and misery of our past life.;The basic myth of marriage can be described as follows. “When I wed this person all my problems will be over. I will have achieved success and I will become the center of life for this other person and this person will be my center, and we will mean everything to each other forever.” This myth is soon exposed. The coming of children, the pulls and tugs of their demands on affection and time, place a considerable strain on that basic myth of meaning everything to each other, of merging together and solving all of life’s problems.;The struggle to survive in marriage requires adaptability, flexibility, genuine love and kindness and an imagination strong enough to feel what the other is feeling.;Communication is essential for a good marriage. Many marriages fall apart because either partner cannot imagine what the other wants or cannot communicate what he or she needs or feels.;A good marriage means growing as a couple but also growing as individuals. A good marriage takes some kind of sacrifice. Some of one’s fantasies, some of one’s legitimate desires have to be given up for the value of the marriage itself. A good marriage also requires sexual, financial and emotional discipline.;Divorce is not an evil act. Sometimes it provides salvation for people who have grown hopelessly apart or were frozen in patterns of pain or mutual unhappiness. To illustrate her point of view, Roiphe points out that divorce can be, despite its initial devastation, like the first cut of the surgeon’s knife, a step toward new health and a good life.;Ex. II, pp.104;A. Thesis of the essay;B.