生活感悟,收集笔记摘录（Feeling of life, collecting notes, extracts）.doc

生活感悟,收集笔记摘录（Feeling of life, collecting notes, extracts） One of the two deepest psychological needs of 1. people is to be accepted unconditionally by others, and the other is to hope to be the first in your beloved. 2. when you are in danger, when you lack, in time of war, in your own end is poor, if there is a next person to help you, you will easily involuntarily fall in love with each other. 3., when we take each other as God, to meet all our needs, there must be a problem. 4., four dependent forms: security type, escape type, anxiety type and disorder type. 5. the dilemma of intimacy in life is not fear of abandonment, but fear of being devoured. 6., women who dress up tend to have lower divorce rates, while men do not have a significant gap in this regard. 7. men often flee because they care about relationships because they dont know how to solve the problem. Women also want to chase, but also because she cares about this relationship, men are afraid to destroy this relationship, women fear the heart of the current was cut off, afraid of two people no love connection. 8., pain + blame = four killer pain - blame = intimate relationship, the most useful treatment principle is, how do you think of ways to let both sides of the inner pain can emerge, and not to attack each other?. 9. mood Pyramid: the top is anger (water above), pain and disappointment (water below), tenderness and intimacy. 10., five, ten steps to repair. A. learn to pause, fire a light for love, control the impulse response from the subconscious mind, and go into the rational response state that is controlled by the conscious mind. Only in the state of consciousness can you make new choices and be able to resolve conflicts effectively - - jump out of yourself and watch yourself. Communicate ahead, Im getting angry.. Please change your tone of voice and repeat what you just said to help change your sense of direction B. understands, identifies, and develops emotional intelligence. C. examination i