Positive Psychology Lecture（下）.ppt

Breathing CultivatingIndependent and UnconditionalSelf-Esteem The Importance of Being Independent Moral Behavior True to principles Empathy Better cognitive performance Creative thinking Commitment to continuous learning Increased Happiness Calmness The joy of self-expression Research Results Self-Esteem Stability Kernis (1995) Ben-Shahar (2000) Happiness and Flow Christino (2002) Narcissism, Generosity, Hostility Ben-Shahar (2004) Perfectionism Ignaczyk and Richey (2003) The Case of Relationships “Differentiation is your ability to maintain your sense of self when you are emotionally and/or physically close to others—especially as they become increasingly important to you. Differentiation permits you to maintain your own course when lovers, friends, and family pressure you to agree and conform. Well-differentiated people can agree without feeling like they’re ‘losing themselves,’ and can disagree without feeling alienated and embittered.” David Schnarch (1997) Change Attitude Behavior Enhancing Self-Esteem Induce calm Slave to passions Finding flow Coping Humble behavior Taking time Stage Model Stage 1 Automatic reaction Conformity Dependent self Stage 2 Deliberate reflAction Self reliance Independent core self Enhancing Self-Esteem Induce calm Slave to passions Finding flow Coping Humble behavior Taking time Integrity Integrity Treatment Being known versus validated (Schnarch, 1997) Express not impress Assert yourself Gradually expanding integrity From journaling to loved-one to world From day to week to life-long Truth sets us free Your true potential lies way, way down in the depths of your soul… in the pit of your stomach, past your knowledge, beyond your nervousness, and buried under your fears and anxieties. As hidden as it may be, it is still there. I know it’s there because I’ve felt it before, and I know it’s there in others too because I’ve seen others perform miracles. There is a faint glow of unparalleled potential in a