布鲁斯法伊勒(ruce Feiler)将敏捷开发方法引入家庭.docx

布鲁斯法伊勒（Bruce Feiler）将敏捷开发方法引入家庭 So heres the good news about families. The last 50 years have seen a revolution in what it means to be a family. We have blended families, adopted families, we have nuclear families living in separate houses and divorced families living in the same house. But through it all, the family has grown stronger. Eight in 10 say the family they have today is as strong or stronger than the family they grew up in. Now, heres the bad news. Nearly everyone is completely overwhelmed by the chaos of family life. Every parent I know, myself included, feels like were constantly playing defense. Just when our kids stop teething, they start having tantrums. Just when they stop needing our help taking a bath, they need our help dealing with cyberstalking or bullying. And heres the worst news of all. Our children sense were out of control. Ellen Galinsky of the Families and Work Institute asked 1,000 children, If you were granted one wish about your parents, what would it be? The parents predicted the kids would say, spending more time with them. They were wrong. The kids number one wish? That their parents be less tired and less stressed. So how can we change this dynamic? Are there concrete things we can do to reduce stress, draw our family closer, and generally prepare our children to enter the world? I spent the last few years trying to answer that question, traveling around, meeting families, talking to scholars, experts ranging from elite peace negotiators to Warren Buffetts bankers to the Green Berets. I was trying to figure out, what do happy families do right and what can I learn from them to make my family happier? I want to tell you about one family that I met, and why I think they offer clues. At 7 p.m. on a Sunday in Hidden Springs, Idaho, where the six members of the Starr family are sitting down to the highlight of their week: the family meeting. The Starrs are a regular American family with their share of regular American family problems.