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教育｜我们父母的孩子，都如何谈论他 们的父母？ Education: How is (Our Parents’ )Child Talk about Their Parents? 原创 2016-08-17 遛遛 三联生活周刊 “你吃晚饭了吗？在做什么”？ “Have you eaten? What are you up to?” “吃了，刚在楼下散了会儿步”。 “yes, I did, taking a bit stroll downstairs.” “最近身体还好吗”？ “How do you feel recently?” “还好，你呢”？ “I am ok, you? ” “你和爸最近还好吗?” “How is my father and you, are you two ok ? ” 母亲沉默。沉默良久后，像是为了让对话继续进行下去一样， 她开口问儿子:“你晚上吃的啥”?“天气凉了，注意添加衣服”。 在停顿和中断之后，母子两人又回到看似毫不间断的寒暄中。 Then the Mum fell into silence, after a while, as if trying to make the conversation continue, she started to ask her son: “what did you eat as supper?” “the weather is turning cold, get yourself more clothes.” In between the interruption and intermission, both mother and son went back to a seemingly fluent chat again. 在 7 月的北京南锣鼓巷戏剧节上，一部易卜生国际委约创作的 文献剧《关于我父母和他们的孩子》吸引了我。戏剧由一段段 独白构成，与背景受访者的叙述交织在一起。导演马蒂亚斯·约 赫曼希望舞台构成的是一个意义开放的对话空间，而不是传达 创作者的任何意图。对像我这样的中国观众来说，那些对话与 肢体语言则饱含细微之处的张力和布满腠理的隐喻，引发出许 多日常生活语境里的想象与共鸣。 “About My Parents and Their Child”, a documentary theatre play commissioned by Ibsen International and th staged during the 7 Nanluoguxiang Performing Arts Festival, attracted my attention. The play was composed with a series of monologues, interacting with the interview videos on the background. Director Matthias Jochmann hoped to build a conversational space with open- mindedness and meaningfulness with the stage, rather than deliver any intentions from the creators. As a Chinese audience like me though, the conversation and physical languages were filled with subtle tension and threads of metaphors, triggering many imaginations and resonances in the context of daily life. 比如，开头那段儿子与母亲在舞台上的电话聊天，对话里就全 是长期不在父母身边的我们与父母在电话里聊天的熟悉内容。 在我看来，这些沉默之处，却又是我们与父母慢慢开始疏远的 痕迹：自中学住进寄宿学校、大学远离家、毕业后在另一个城 市定居，与爸妈的书信和电话交流虽然依旧频繁，但那些构成 我们各自生活的无数细节，却成了不便详陈、来不及详陈、慢 慢不再详陈，直至无法再深入交流的沟通盲区；父母亦然。在 嘘寒问暖的唠家常和对琐事的叮嘱里，小时候与父母的亲密无 间在不 意中变得隔膜，直到重聚，我们发现，父母对构建我 们自我的很多历程都因不再全面和细致了解而错估或误解。 For i