为啥妈妈老嫌爸爸家务干得少？.pdfVIP

Why Moms Time Is Different From Dads Time 为啥妈妈老嫌爸爸家务干得少？ Several years ago, while observing a parenting group in Minnesota, I was struck by a confession one of the women made to her peers: She didnt really care that her husband did the dishes after dinner. Sure, it was swell of him, and she had friends whose husbands did less. But what she really wanted, at that point in her day, was for her husband to volunteer to put the kids to bed. She would have been glad to sit in the kitchen on her own for a few minutes with the water running and her mind wandering. Another woman chimed in: Totally. The dishes dont talk back to you. 几年前，我在明尼苏达州观摩过一个育儿组织的讨论会， 一位女士对其他成员坦 陈心迹对我触动颇深。她说，她丈夫晚饭后刷盘子，但她一点也不觉得高兴。当 然，他能刷盘子很了不起， 她有一些朋友的丈夫家务做得更少。 但晚饭之后她真 正希望丈夫去做的事情是主动哄孩子睡觉。 如果能一个人在厨房里坐几分钟， 在 水流声中发发呆，她会感到很高兴。另一位女士接过话头：“完全正确。盘子不 会跟你顶嘴。” According to the American Time Use Survey-which asks thousands of Americans annually to chronicle how they spend their days-men and women now work roughly the same number of hours a week (though men work more paid hours, and women more unpaid). Given this balanced ledger, one might guess that all would finally be quiet on the domestic front-that women would finally have stopped wondering how they, rather than their husbands, got suckered into such a heavy load. But they havent. The question is: Why? 《美国人时间使用调查》 (American Time Use Survey) （这项一年一度的调查 让数千名美国人按时间顺序记录他们如何度过一天的时间） 显示，如今男性和女 性一周的工作时间基本相同 （不过男性的有酬工作时间较长， 女性的无酬工作时 间较长）。既然这本时间账是平衡的，我们也许会猜测，夫妻双方在家务方面的 所有矛盾最终都会平息──女性应该终于不再疑惑为什么是她们而不是丈夫被如 此沉重的负担所纠缠。但她们的疑问并没有消除。这是为什么呢？ Part of the problem is that averages treat all data as if theyre the same and therefore combinable, which often results in a kind of absurdity. On average, human beings have half an Adams apple, but no one thinks to lump