新大学英语·综合教程2第一版课文版PPT课件.pptxVIP

;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;The collision course of parent expectations and college student reality is one that plays out over each holiday break and summer vacation. Battle lines are drawn soon after our kids arrive home and despite the best intentions we begin to argue. They sleep when we are awake and vice versa. They forget that family members work or go to school as they and their friends wander in and out of our house at all hours. They spread debris over every horizontal surface, leaving our homes looking much like their dorms. ;Despite months of missing my college kids, it took only minutes for my frustration to surface last year. I held fast to our fantasy weekend as our real one unfolded. This year, I hope to do better. Tom Dingman, Dean of Freshmen at Harvard College, often hears from parents who look forward to college breaks but are disappointed when the easy intimacy of their family is marred by stress and conflict. He suggests that parents prepare themselves for the changes they may find in their students and urges them to speak openly about any sources of conflict early in the vacation.;Dingman cautions parents that their kids may be “trying out of different postures, different viewpoints and that is part of developing your individuality and figuring out who you are apart from your family.” He acknowledges that these transformations can be confusing or frustrating for parents but notes that our kids “need our support and to know that we still believe in them.” ;At the end of Thanksgiving weekend, Dingman and his wife overheard their freshman daughter talking on the phone with her roommate making plans to meet back on campus Sunday evening. He knew something had fundamentally changed when his daughter said to her roommate, “What time are you going to get back home?” Dingman and his wife looked at each other stunned. Home was the place they had raised their daughter. Dingman recalls, “That moment encapsulated so much. She was moving on, as we wanted her to do, yet